To those who jump on the 'damsel in disress' bandwagon

First of all, why is it such an issue that Aurora doesn't play a huge role in the progression of the story?

Second of all, Aurora is shunned for being 'weak' because of her inability to act to further the story. I think it's safe to assume that these criticisms come from self-proclaimed feminists. It is also a feminist cause to shun 'victim-blaming', i.e claiming that a girl/woman who becomes intoxicated to the point of unconsciousness, removing her own will, plays a role in any rape that may occur during this state. Yet, Aurora had her will forcibly taken from her and she is labeled with all sorts of negative adjectives from this same group. Why is this blatant victim-blaming permitted with Disney characters? Cinderella is on the receiving end of this double standard as well. She's called 'weak' because she remained under the abusive rule of her stepmother and stepsisters for such a long time. Yet if anyone questions why an actual victim of abuse and/or kidnapping remained so long in the situation, the 'victim-blaming' defense is played yet again. Which is it? Should victims be shunned as weak when they don't act to protect their best interests, or is blaming the victim taboo? Make up your minds.