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Realistic portrayal of a family dealing with Alzheimer's.


I am not sure why this qualifies as entertainment, or what kind
of entertainment it is. This is a pretty depressing story that just
gets worse, like the disease.

The father, Robert Forster, is grappling with his wife, Blythe Danner,
who is getting worse and worse dementia. The son, Michael Shannon,
and the daughter, Hillary Swank, bicker about the family things, who
does all the work and who has the Power Of Attorney.

It is a hard movie to watch, but it rungs fairly true. There is a moment,
not played for laughs, where the son has to tell his sister that their Mom
did not know who he was and was hitting on him.

I suppose these type of movies serve the purpose of explaining parts of
life to people who would otherwise have no idea of the things that can
happen. Most of us are so busy trying to take care of ourselves that we
don't spend a lot of time thinking about others and their trails and
tribulations. The more isolated we get the less we know of each other
and the less we care.

This is not really conducive to family life, or a country's life. The movie
is done pretty well, but it is not an upper of a movie by any means and
is all about how life ends.

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There are all kinds of film that concentrate on the unpleasant realities of real life. There are more films then I could count that deal with the worst aspects of war and its aftermath, terminal illness, accidents and various tragedies that don't end well.
I wouldn't call most of them entertaining but I guess some people that are going through something similar may relate. Or people that are curious and fear the worst scenario and may want to figure out how to cope if it should happen to them. Or people that just want to understand a certain truth about life in general.

Sometimes I watch some of these because I want to relate to different things humans have to experience that I haven't experienced..
But this one I pass on since I already went through this with my mother and she's gone now. I don't need any schooling in what it's like to see someone go through this.
It's damn depressing.

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> But this one I pass on since I already went through this with my mother and she's gone now.

Me too. That is why I wonder what is the point of these kinds of movies. Maybe these movies are approaching total "starknees" with each new one, because most of them usually have some kind of saving human grace. This one is pretty stark, it is not a fairy tale, that is for sure. It goes a bit further in that the father ( Robert Forster ) who resists sending his wife away throughout the entire story and finally relents at the end has a fatal heart attack from all the stress he puts himself through, and the family is left with the mother ( Blythe Danner ) who does not even know whose wake it is she is attending.

This occurs right at the end of the movie, so I wonder if anyone watching really takes in the point.

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There are all these movies about people going through difficult parts of their lives. What is the point of these movies? Why not just have happy funny joy joy movies and movies about penguins and unicorns!

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I would guess, that most of this movies are coping methods for a producer or director about their own family fate.

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