It's SO interesting which parts of which movies people connect with.
For me, the differences (in tone And particulars) between the early comics and the Raimi movies were a dealbreaker for me. I had a conversation w/someone else in another thread, I'll summarize the thrust:
* Organic webbing. This is so incredibly bad on so many levels I have to resist writing an entire essay. I'll restrict it to two issues: Spiders DON'T "shoot" webs, and one of the most amazing things about Pete is that he was able to create webbing and a device to shoot it. It's a BIG part of his character; in a sense, the webshooters *are* another character. The creators missed the ball and did a tremendous disservice to the character, with this decision.
* Making MJ his love interest. I predicted to everyone who would listen that this was absurd, because Peter was All About Betty initially, then Gwen, THEN MJ. Again, a disservice to the character/story: they were *clearly* prisoners of the moment, simply because MJ was Peter's current partner in the comics. Again, I predicted that this wouldn't last in the comics, and that Marvel's decision would therefore not age well. This is EXACTLY what happened.
* Visuals: The Spiderman suit was cool, but the Goblin was so awful I've made a concerted effort to scrub it from my mind. Toby doesn't really look like Peter, What's her name doesn't look like Gwen, Willem Dafoe and Franco look NOTHING like the Osborns. (Interestingly, the peripheral characters are SPOT ON. Aunt May was good, Robbie was great, and JJJ was essentially peeled right off the page. Even Betty Brant was amazing piece of casting.)
* Villain: Again, they went obvious/greatest foe, instead of developing the story organically. ."
etc, etc. . .
YMMV with the details, but for ME the Raimi Spider-Man’s captured the essence , atmosphere and nostalgia of 60s/ 70s Spidey.
I've heard, Goliard, that Raimi actually planned to use Gwen in the first movie instead of MJ but that producer Avi Arad talked him out of it. Avi Arad thought it'd be too predictable to the comics fans in the audience to have Gwen in the movie and have her get killed by Green Goblin. He also felt in that regard Gwen was a pointless character since the main thing comic readers remembers about her is that she ends up getting killed by the Green Goblin. I think he also convinced Raimi by insisting it'd be too much on the non comcis fans for his girl friend and Uncle to both die in the same movie.
I wish this hadn't happened cause I think I'd have liked the movies more if Gwen was killed by the Goblin in the first and then 2 and 3 are about him trying to get over Gwen's death and meeting Mary Jane. There would've been so much better drama in that than the anger inducing stuff of Mary Jane's bad attitude towards Peter in Spider-Man 2 and 3. Also forgot to mention but Avi Arad is then a hypocrite for allowing Laura Ziskin to force Gwen into Spider-Man 3 after Norman had been killed off. And no I don't think Raimi would've done the story from the 90s where Norman Osborn turns out not to be dead.
I've heard the same. My perspective then was the same as now: WHY RUSH THINGS? Bond is going on about his thousandth movie; this franchise could've developed things much more reasonably. There have been many important people in Peter's life; no need to smash the timeline together the way they have.