A bit disappointed in how the date rape was handled...

Not entirely meant to be click-bait, but for a first post (apparently), I thought it should be captivating.

It is one part of the movie that bothered me, and I'm certainly not blaming the writing or the acting (I enjoyed the movie very much!), but that society is conditioned this way. I suspect many of you will already be thinking in the opposite direction.

I'm of course referring to the manner in which Mary raped Richie, and how subsequently he was seemingly obligated to apologize, and she admittedly and unnecessarily forgave him. It's the central event of the entire movie, and I'm left wondering if anyone is seeing it anywhere near the same way as I am.

Richie was drunk and not even aware it was Mary. Mary was fully aware, reciprocated, and encouraged things. She took advantage of him and manipulated him into doing something he was otherwise not OK doing. Mary is subjected to some slut shaming (not OK, just off the mark), and Richie is raked across the coals, particularly with respect to his relationship with Melissa (Mary's sister). Virtually zero consideration is given to his situation. Is he traumatized? Does he feel violated? Betrayed? Does he now have trust issues with women? No one cares. Woe to you if you think he "asked for it," eh? Mary is clear that she's not the victim, but she also never apologizes.

We're not told just how drunk Mary was when she took these actions, but she was a great deal more coherent than Richie. It should certainly be safe to say he was too intoxicated to give legal consent. It is questionable at best whether Mary was sober enough to give consent (she may have been stone cold sober), withstanding their ages of course.

This is truly meant to instigate a serious discussion, so I would appreciate any serious responses. There does seem to be a double standard in society and while I have my own unpopular suspicious as to why this is, I would rather hold society accountable to its own politically correct absurdities.