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Kevin was hurt, yes, but that doesn't mean he sacrificed that much for Patrick. And Patrick did sacrifice for him.
Kevin broke up with Jon, who he continuously claimed to Patrick didn't make him happy. If he wasn't that happy in that relationship, how much of a sacrifice is it? Even that wasn't that big of a sacrifice because as we've learned, he later goes right back to Jon. So what did he give up exactly?
Patrick on the other hand sacrificed his integrity by hooking up with a guy who was involved (Kevin didn't do the same since, as we learn in ep 210, he was already cheating on Jon before Patrick came along, so his integrity was long gone by that point), his sense of self-worth right up until the end of 204, that he deserved a guy who would be 100% with him, he moved out of his apartment and left Agustin behind, his relationship with his sister took a huge hit and for all Patrick knew when he went public with his relationship with Kevin, it could have hurt other relationships as well with others who would not approve of this, Owen for one was definitely hurt. And while Pat and Kevin both worked at MDG and both might have paid a price for getting involved with each other, the more valuable employee is less likely to suffer such consequences, meaning Patrick took a bigger risk there too. Eventually, when things fall apart, it's exactly Patrick who finds himself unable to continue working in their work place and having to leave behind both MDG and San Francisco. And along the way, if you notice, there is more than one moment when we see Patrick accommodating Kevin's wishes and prioritizing them, for example in 210, when Patty wants to go to Agustin's mural event and he agrees to first go to the neighbors' party because Kevin wants to.
Yeah, sorry, Kevin was hurt, but that is not proof of sacrifice. He was hurt despite not giving up nearly as much as Patrick has for the sake of the relationship.
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And I don't think Patrick freaked out and ran away with Kevin. I think he freaked out with Richie, in 107 and 108. With Kevin, I feel it was more like coming to his senses, realizing what the situation he's in is really like and understanding that it's not a place where he should stay. He already had 2 moments of realizing Kevin's no good for him (the end of 104 and 204), but this was the one where there were no more doubts or what if's left on his mind. The bit in the movie where Kevin confronts Patrick serves to confirm this, that they weren't right for each other all along, because unlike with Richie, whose presence and friendship Patrick still craves and misses even after they've broken up in such a painful way, with Kevin he can't even stay friends after the fact. And how important for lovers to also be friends is pointed out to us through Agustin's relationship with Eddie.
You said the whole lesson of the movie is that Patrick should stop freaking out and running away? He has stopped. With Richie. Though I would argue that the main point of the movie is not just that but mainly that you have to go for the things that you want, that would make you happy, despite the very real possibility of fu(king things up. If you look at Dom and Agustin's stories in the movie, they too revolve around that idea exactly.
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