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Selfish? & Suggestions w/ Medical Choices (Might have a spoiler)

posted 8 years ago by Rainbowboys22
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The man DIED, and returned. Those massive injuries, and so much physical pain, and emotional pain.... Knowing they had good intentions, but completely failed. Don is the only one in physical pain, and he went through all that, just to get b*tched at, about how he is hurting others. Well guess what, he was the one dealing with the constant pain. Pain changes you, it changes how you feel, it changes your will to live, it changes everything... His plate was overloaded and all these people around him try to place guilt on top of that... If I had been Don, I wouldn't have allowed all the bs he was given.

Disclosure: I have been a chronic pain patient for 8+ years now. I worked at a hospital, and witnessed all the BS. From families REFUSING to let a brain dead patient's body die, when there was nothing left. To patients families fighting the patient, to agree to procedures they didn't want.

This movie is ONE example of the need of an Advance Directive... (Or similar document, depending on what state you live in) Had Don, prepared an Advance Directive, his wishes would have taken over the care he received or didn't receive. You never know when it will be your turn to go home. No matter your age, get the document done now, while you can. Tell everyone what you want done, pass out copies of the Advance Directive to all your family etc. This way there is no questions or guesses.... I have had mine done since 2007, and through the years added wishes and some canceled out. I carry mine around my neck I never leave home without it. and have a copy in each car.

If you keep electronic copies, like on a USB drive, make sure to save all the info as a PDF document so nothing can be changed without your approval... !

[–] keOron2010 8 years ago

I understand your point. I kept on reminding myself that he's suffering and that people cope with suffering in different ways.

You need to understand that this was all in the late 1980's. I don't know if the Directive was thought of in those times, but the medical responsibilities rested on the spouse.

What concerned me was that we only saw Eva praying for her husband once. Not once was she reading the Word to him or to herself as she sat by her bedside. She didn't try to encourage him spiritually. All we saw were her struggles to get back the husband that she lost, on her own. When someone, especially a loved one, is going through so much pain and emotional (and spiritual) fight, the best thing you can do is encourage them with the Word of God. Taken, sometimes they don't wanna hear it, but having someone in faith with you comforts you - better than being told that a lot of people around the world are praying for you. I think the movie missed that.