Millennials The Movie!

Not to hopes degree of jerkiness but I don't see what's so wrong with being a little selfish.

Finally someone had the balls to say it. Thank you :-) Yes, a lot of people that say that stuff are just being rude. Don't ever apologize to them for being who you are. They were bullies then when I was growing up and they're bullies now.

I'm not a milennial (I'm 40), but I do often get misunderstood and judged, both IRL and on the net, and called things like "pretentious", "self important", etc. Really frustrating to still at my age be so misunderstood like that, makes those people kinda seem like douchebags. I'm not even sure why I still try to write posts like this defending people like me, standing up to the jerks, hardly anyone seems to appreciate it, wasting my life when I could be enjoying what's left of my life doing something else. Especially since my keyboard's busted so these posts take forever to write, so most of the time I just give up halfway thru lol But yeah, when I get judged like that, I try to just laugh it off and "own" it (my "flaws"). Not always so easy, though.

What these judgmental people don't (even try to) understand is that, if you're a completely selfless person, like I've often tried to be before I learned my lesson, other people just walk all over you and take advantage of your kindness, accuse you of lacking "backbone", etc. So if you don't look out for yourself, who will? One of the few things I seem to be good at is I like to think I'm an extremely kind person - however, no one seems to appreciate kindness these days.

So when no one appreciates the things in life you're good at and like about yourself, when they maybe even hate you for it - what are you supposed to do? Honestly, I want to know. How do you survive? So I've tried to deal by becoming a bit more selfish. Sure. So now I get judged for that. So you literally can't win and be good enough for these people no matter what you do. And as a human, a sensitive and caring one at that, its impossible to just "not care what people think". Doesn't work for me :-/ No wonder I can't relate to people my own age. So I try to relate to younger people and I get judged for that lol And on and on the cycle goes...

Not all of us had "normal", perfect parents who were always there for us and always made us feel loved, important, and special and always had our backs, so we'd become 100% well adjusted and know how to navigate all this stuff properly. Often they were narcissists and cared more about themselves. Plus my Mom was "nice" but cold as hell and my Dad was mostly kind and the "alpha" type yet had about the scariest temper I've ever seen, called me "dumb", etc. Tell me that wouldn't mess a kid up. Yet I'm the one who gets blamed for their mistakes just because I turned out flawed? Screw. That. How'd they expect me to turn out after all that? lol

Also, if you've lived your whole life as a misfit, maybe shy, awkward, sensitive, introverted, etc and always made to feel worthless, who wouldn't become a little broken? Who wouldn't want to use the internet (boards, social media, etc) as a platform to try and be brave and put yourself out there, so others hopefully can finally understand you? To connect with others, maybe others like you, and feel less alone? And you all are gonna judge us for that? No wonder people kill themselves.

So you see, life isn't always so black and white. That's why I love movies like this, its about "grown-ups" who are still struggling to figure things out in life. Movies about perfect, "normal" people are too alienating and depressing for me, especially since normal is a myth. Plus I know too many people in real life who are like that and judge me for not being like them, for daring to be myself (the nerve!). And not everyone can handle that kind of pressure. So it can be very psychologically damaging, the idea that everyone has life all figured out except for us. That's fine for the so-called "alpha" people, but what about the rest of us, still struggling, broken, and lost?

But no, its always easier to just be a hardass and judge others, to ignore them, write them off as "selfish milennials" or whatever, than to try and empathize, listen, and understand. When people act a certain way, there's usually a reason behind how they turned out like they have. Psychology 101. Sorry we can't all have become "normal", perfect "grown-ups" like them (and they call us self important lol).

Oh, and Hope earned that Bronze Medal, which is nothing to sneeze at, so screw anyone who calls her entitled. Plus some people maybe just had easier lives for whatever reason (grew up with some money, etc) when they were younger and struggle once they get older and the world becomes more competitive and unkind. That's not "weak", that's called being human. No one is perfect.

And it doesn't mean they don't have "real problems" lol How offensive. Ever heard of developmental disorders? Not everyone gets diagnosed properly at a young age, and we get repeatedly rejected for whatever reason when we reach out for the help we need, plus psych meds don't work for some reason, so some of us continue to struggle and fall thru the cracks. Without our family's (middle class) money (which doesn't always last) or anyone else helping us. Trying our best and still failing. At some point you just give up/wise up and stop living your life trying to please those jerks. So yeah, how dare Hope want a happy ending to her life? lol Dicks.

The world shouldn't have to be all competition, all "winners" and "losers". Again, the "alpha people" may be fine with it, but what about the rest of us? Call me an idealist, but that's how I feel. And not everyone responds well to being "pushed" by hardasses, nor can we all be hardasses ourselves. But wouldn't it be boring if everyone was thought the same? Or thought the same? So stop pressuring us to all be the same. Break the cycle. If society is going to blame someone for the Hopes of the world, how we've turned out, take some responsibility for once (since you all claim to be so good at that) and look in the damn mirror.

/Rant Just my opinion. I guess I still put it out there because I'd like to think writing is one of the other few things I'm good at. And at some point I'll find my audience...or die trying. Or I'm too dumb to quit lol But I hope at least one person understood and maybe related (whether they say so or not, but they can PM me if they want...too many jerks here for me to read replies). Would make typing all that worth it (phew!).

Really liked the movie btw (the Duplass Bros produced it and they can do no wrong in my book, plus I usually relate to characters played by Thomas Middleditch - beta males 4 Life, haha. Plus the young gymnast was pretty hot) :-)


"I like you 'cuz you're real. You don't pretend you've got it all figured out like everyone else."

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