Yes! Thank you! I had the same feeling. In fact, it reminded me of this self-help book written by Lundy Bancroft ("Why does he do that?"). I don't necessarily think he was physically abusing her, but on his part I feel there was definitely emotional abuse going on (probably without him wanting to, but we could say the same thing about her).
Okay, so let's get one thing out of the way: it's a bad thing to drive drunk, and she also shouldn't have been physically fighting with him.
What's more interesting is how he constantly criticizes her (her driving drunk - okay, but also her partying, and smoking, even though we see him smoking pot as well!), while taking NO responsibility for his own actions. Like promising to leave after one drink, but staying, and actually cheating, and lying about it later. Like indeed deciding to take a job, without consulting her (even though his choice is understandable, it doesn't leave much room for her opinion).
It's a nasty downward spiral and both of them aren't mature enough to break it. I certainly don't think it's all Mel who's to blame.
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