That's after he tells her she was the love of his life
He said "were" and you said "was", both are past tense, as in not anymore.
I'm reading "The Four Swans" now and he's the one who suggests she should have another baby and make sure it's premature like the last to put George's suspicions to rest.
His 1st suggestion is that she confront George about his fears, his 2nd one is that "women can get confused as to the months of their conception. Perhaps you did with Valentine - perhaps not. But let there be confusion next time, however arranged. Another seven-month child would convince George as nothing else would" . That to me does not sound like he is telling her to induce herself early, but to confuse George as to how far along she is.
I will admit this is a sticky scene between Ross and Elizabeth. I had to read it multiple times to be able to digest it all. He does tell Elizabeth he doesn't regret what happened between them, he also told Demelza the same thing, because it was what woke him up from his "Elizabeth dream". He says that he was jealous of her marriage to George, that it was difficult to see the woman he had always loved giving herself to man he had always hated. As much as I hate hearing him tell her that, he is telling her the truth. He was jealous and he had always loved her. Once again this is past tense, he is not saying he still does. He does tell her, "I'm not trying to revive something between
us". Him kissing her face is gross, but I think he is feeling bad about how upset she is and feels responsible. He is trying to make her feel better throughout that conversation. Afterwards he wants to tell Demelza about seeing Elizabeth, but decides not too since he feels it will probably be misunderstood and he doesn't want that to happen. He admits in his thoughts to trying to deliberately show affection to her and even make her think he still loves her because of how hostile and upset she was and be feels guilty. Though I would not do the same, If I try real hard I can kind of understand this.
When Ross eventually tells Demelza about his talk with Elizabeth he explains himself a bit.
" What I want to say is I came away from that meeting with the renewed conviction that she no longer meant anything to me - that is, in the way you do. I loved her once - as you know too well - and idealized her. I shall always think of her with admiration and affection. But.... she won't ever be central to me as you are - preoccupying, all-important, indispensible, both as a person and a woman.... "
I don't care for Carolines kisses either. It's normal to be sexually attracted to someone, as they both are, but all the more reason not to act on it!
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IveGotASecret
7 years ago
It's not just Caroline acting that way that bugs me, all these men who have been after Demelza knows she's married and still they go after her. It's like no one respects anyone's marriage and think everyone is fair game married or not.
I think why I despised what the "Mouth Kisser" did twice is she's sat down at a table with Demelza, she's slept under her roof and even went to her when Ross was gone the first time looking for comfort from her and then she kisses her husband twice because she wants to. Wanna bet she'd have a fit if Dwight decided to kiss Demelza or any other woman a couple of times because he felt like it? It's one thing if you don't know the man's wife, but it just smacks of these back-stabbing bimbos who sleep with a friend's husband.
In regards to Ross you can interpret it in many ways, especially when you take into consideration that little private dialogue he has with himself. That he tried to make Elizabeth believe he still loved her, but if he told Demelza he'd have to says thinks he'd didn't mean.
I haven't got up to the point where Demelza cheats on Ross, but I think she did it because for once there was a man who made her feel like she was "The One" the same way Ross has always treated Elizabeth as. Whether it's Elizabeth or wanting to go off on some dangerous mission, Ross has a habit of making Demelza feel like second best. Maybe I'll feel differently when I read it, but that's my feelings right now. Someone also claimed that Jud tells Demelza he saw Ross kissing Elizabeth, which if true, is another contributing factor. Demelza can't have any faith he won't do it again, because he never said he wouldn't do it again. Ross said he didn't come back after the first time because it would have caused too many problems; was that so he could have another helping of Elizabeth or to talk to her?
I know Ross says in the show Demelza is the love of his life, but has he ever said that to her in the books? That's why the syntax doesn't matter. What does is he declares Elizabeth was the love of his life, when he claims he idealized the relationship. So how can he still claim she was the love of his life?
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