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I find it hard to believe:

posted 10 years ago by rhonda-gram
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that as long as they have all been "married" to Brady (I think the shortest is 17 years).. you would think they have ways of talking to each other without bringing him into it..I just don't believe that the lines of communication have been non-existent and all of a sudden they are having "safe talks". which didn't go so well and I didn't get the reason behind that one. Because Nonie paid a bill in Paulies name that was a "community" bill?? None of these women act like the quiet type.. they are going to speak their minds.
and why.. in the Brown Family and Williams families does it seem like the one married the longest is the most insecure? I guess I just don't understand their lifestyle of the man having multiple wives. Heck it hurts bad enough when you THINK your spouse is cheating.. this is RIGHT THERE IN YOUR FACE cheating...and then throwing children into the mix... not my cup of tea but to each their own....interesting to see how it all plays out...like a trainwreck!!

[–] Lovetvshows 10 years ago

I have never understood the jealousy issue concerning polygamy. If a woman knows going into the relationship that she has to share a man with other women why is she jealous? The wives don't look very happy just like the Brown women.

[–] shercath1 10 years ago

Remember, Paulie said they were taught that you had to live polygamy in order to get to heaven. So if you were raised believing that, you would feel the need to do it whether you want to share a husband or not. So I give a bit of a pass to the ones who were raised believing it had to be done but feel jealous about sharing their husband. It's probably even more difficult for her to handle since she now doesn't believe you need to live in polygamy to make it to heaven.

[–] shercath1 10 years ago

So far, the women have such sadness in their eyes, even when they are smiling and saying they are happy about something - except for Nonie - she's all about angry eyes. I had a sister-in-law like Nonie and we were always walking on eggshells, waiting for her to go balistic about something you did or didn't do, or not saying something to her just right, she was exhausting!

[–] Lovetvshows 10 years ago

I agree with you about the sadness in their eyes, especially Robyn. The woman looks like she might have a mild case of depression. The way she reacted when Brady had to write the paper and wouldn't be able to spend the whole night with her was sad. It was also sad that when he took her out for a date he didn't know what foods she liked.

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[–] mmack81 10 years ago

Well in his defense my husband only has 1 wife and is always forgetting what foods I don't like! Lol

[–] AntwoinD 10 years ago

Yes, that's what my spouse and I were discussing. Sad, dead looking eyes even when speaking about something they claim made them happy. These are miserable, broken women who despise sharing a husband.

[–] deidrarb 10 years ago

I believe that as human beings we're naturally wired with jealousy. Some people overcome it more easily or deal with it better than others, but I think there is always a bit of jealousy in everyone. Regarding the jealousy issue in polygamous relationships, I have read several books written by those involved (either former children or former wives in both cults and FLDS), and it's evident in all of them. Some of the women deal with it by getting pregnant (to prove they've been having sex with the other wives' husband) and others wreak havoc in other ways like money management. And none of these people have televised shows to make it appear that all is great. To me it would feel like knowing your "monogamous" husband has another family somewhere and you don't have the guts to confront him about it, so you just live in misery.

[–] veganmango 10 years ago

Geez is this show depressing. I came on this board specifically to see if I was the only one who thought the wives seem miserable. Sad they try to convince themselves this is really what they want, when you can see in their eyes it clearly isn't.

[–] Patricia-14 10 years ago

I think people are projecting things on these women that aren't actually there. If you're determined to believe that these women are unhappy in their lives, then that's what you're going to read into everything they do or say. If you've decided that they're happy, then that's what you're going to see. As with most things, I'm sure the truth of things is right down the middle -- they're happy sometimes, unhappy other times, just like everyone else in the world. As for the husband not remembering that one of his wives doesn't like shrimp, I've known plenty of men with only one wife -- including mine -- to forget their wife's likes and dislikes on occasion. I doubt it means much more than a lapse in memory.

[–] veganmango 10 years ago

Not projecting. I don't think the Brown wives seem so miserable, and I had no reason going into this show thinking Brady's wives would be, but I saw what I saw. The one wife, Robyn, I think her name is, seems like she's trying not to cry half the time she's talking to the camera.

[–] shercath1 10 years ago

Robyn finally seemed easygoing and not on the verge of tears when she was drinking, poor thing! All of them seemed to have fun at their drinking party.

[–] Patricia-14 10 years ago

I don't see what you mean about the first wife in this situation. She seems completely secure to me. What makes you think she's not?

[–] zuccascatering 10 years ago

I thought the same thing while watching that epi. He obviously has the upper hand as far as making &/or breaking the household rules for the wives. It seemed quite odd though, I must say.