My Mum, like all parents is a very flawed woman. But she always said if I was was mature enough to ask questions in a sensible way then she would give me the answer. I really respect that. Obviously this lead to me asking all kinds of inappropriate questions, appropriately. This not only made me grow in to a very open, honest person, it also gave me a pretty good bull s**t detector. Not to mention made me 'street smart' and self aware. I never really thought about that until I decided to answer this post. She always treated me like an adult, therefore I rarely took advantage. My curfew was always a little later than most of my friends, therefore I was never late home and I never pushed it because I saw that she was fairer than most. I guess it's lead to me always being pretty sensible, even when I'm being reckless.
My Dad was the same, but he let me get away with too much out of guilt for leaving when I was young. That and the fact he was a hippy with very liberal views on parenting. He was more like the cool uncle who lets you get away with anything and eat what you want.
I'm now basically my Dad, with my Mums brains. I don't want kids, but if I did, I'd be honest with them. People treat their kids like they are idiots. My home life was pretty fractured, but I'm definitely more well adjusted than my friends growing up who had the nuclear family thing going on.
Respect your kids, you know?
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