Not Loners anymore...
If you have a relationship with someone... sort of defeats the whole premise behind the title doesn't it?
Loner means being alone devoid of relationship.
Two loners in a relationship is an oxymoron.
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Yes. Even the fact that they are friends makes them non-loners.
share"Loner means being alone devoid of relationship."
That hasn't been my experience. I'm a loner and to me it means a general tendency to prefer solitude to companionship, but not being obsessive about it. A good book on the subject is PARTY OF ONE, by Anneli Rufus.
I agree. I'm a loner, but I still like being around close friends and family. However, I don't like to participate in group projects or hang out after work with co-workers. I preferred to sit alone in the lunchroom when I was in school, but I would join others at their table when they invited me. I'm just not the type of person that would push my way into be accepted by a new group.
shareI've never been close to anyone. i was often alone in school, particularly after school and on weekends and school breaks, often envying what other were doing in groups. I thus was forced to live the life of a loner, if this is indeed what makes someone a loner.
I'm still that way today. I have gone out, but alone and wonder if others are thinking, "She's a loner," and I'd agree. I mean they'll see me sitting alone. But I don't go out that often. Most often to a bar for karaoke and the movies and to look at second-hand stores and to go shopping for necessities. I go to a mental health center to participate in activities, games, and support groups to feel more comfortable around others, but I still need time alone. And I have family, but they barely include me in things. And I'm a very introverted person and quiet. I feel that these kinds of people have limited choices for careers. Should an introvert or loner think of being a nurse? I certainly hate the idea of a lab tech.
Does all this fit the definition?
FWIW, I just had a relative in the hospital for surgery. Nurses were constantly checking in. You'd definitely be interacting with people. Very tough to find a job where that's not the case. Though as a nurse, the interactions seem fairly quick & intermittent. Might be easier to manage.
I have gone out, but alone and wonder if others are thinking, "She's a loner," and I'd agree.
We're too wrapped up in our own self-image to notice yours.
Check out the "Quiet" by Susan Cain. She argues that modern, American culture pathologizes introversion. In other settings, it has been seen as a strength. You can never compel other people to admire your reserved nature. But the book highlights how bizarre it is to put "schmoozers" on a pedestal. share
Some self-called loners do not fit the general idea of what a loner is, but I'm with you on this one. These people seem to be more...a bit on the weird side or just douchbags as in the case of Stoch. There is a difference between being an oddball, a douchbag and a loner, who's simply someone who prefers his/her own company to that of others.
Quit ya moanin
I think the "Loners" part of the show is that they are all devoid of serious long term coupling relationships. Heck outside of these people coming into each others lives out of circumstance, none of them even seem to have serious friends (that we have seen). These aren't recluses just people that for different reasons are alone at this stage of life.
I think the title fits.
Reading the (yes I know it's wiki) wikipedia entry for Loner, it's actually very close to the way the show depicts loners. It's not a term applied in just one way but fits many different kinds of people including those forced to be alone by society rejecting them.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loner
So it may not make much sense that loners can talk to eachother let alone work jobs where they interact with people... especially weird loners... but the more you read on the term the actually better it fits. Loners typically follow the beat of their own drum which often leads them away from other people as they don't need others to validate what they do is good or cool or whatever.
"Weird People Who Until Recently Were Loners"--Accurate, but cumbersome.
The title as it is gets the point across. They're people who tend to be loners. That has been the way their lives have generally worked out.
Now discuss the Lone Ranger who in the entire show is hardly ever by himself. :)
The recent episode did highlight something that loners have to deal with: when Zara finds herself feeling overwhelmed by Caryn's attempts at bonding. Granted Caryn's attempts were comical and exaggerated, but in real life loners often fell overwhelmed--or in danger of being overwhelmed-- by what the Brits call "mateyism."
shareI've been on both sides of that dynamic, but mostly Zara's. :)
shareI've been on both sides of that dynamic, but mostly Zara's. :)I
That's they way I get. I can't take being social in large doses.
Here's how I see what being a loner is:
http://jannghi.blogspot.com/2015/05/what-makes-you-loner.html share
I'am British, but not heard the term extended in such a way. But yeah, the 'mate' thing is very sticky in it's descriptive sense. We use it so causally here, but I refute it every time because it implies we're closer than we actually are.
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