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Sorry, But What do They Expect?

posted 9 years ago by highpriestess32
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Grown men with supposedly half a lifetime's experience wracked-up and yet they are so easily parted with their money as most fools are according to the popular saying.

I don't mean to sound mean but please at least try to aim realistically. Does a man with three stomachs who probably hasn't seen his groin for several years really expect to attract a lithe, glamorous woman half his age? Even if that woman was desperate to marry him surely he must know she only wants a passport to a better life? And as someone else has already said on this board, regardless even of age and appearance if we are to avoid being "ageist", "fatist" and such, these men just couldn't interact regardless of any language barriers.

One says something like "When we stroll hand in hand we don't need to speak the same language" which is stuff best reserved for fairytales I'm afraid. The inability to communicate on even a very basic level is not conducive to a long and happy relationship.

I just felt most of these men were foolish, deluded or both. Even if you know and love a person initimately over a number of years it can fail. This lot don't stand a bat in hell's chance for the long haul - and that's providing they are even capable of recognising a woman who is REPULSED at their grabbing ways which they appear not to notice at all in this documentary!! That one bride was like cardboard whenever he hugged her and that was AFTER he'd already been warned she was a fraud! Serves him right, the fool.

They can't find a woman in a country as HUGE as America? That is because they have no idea how to communicate with one. They remind me of errant kids browsing a pet store for something cute to take home and look after. Funny that as animals can't speak our language either.

I just ended up yelling "GET REAL" and "GROW UP" at my screen when watching this!!

"Has anyone seen my wife?" - Columbo

[–] bravelikethelion 9 years ago

Heh, agree with everything. I recall the men mentioning several times that American/Western women were too "difficult" and such, and that Russian/Eastern European women were more eager to please. Truthfully, most of the men ,with exception to the Australian gent and the older, in shape American, came off as a bunch of basement dwelling mama's boys. Realistically, I think they all could've found women in their own countries--they just had expectations well outside of their realities. As they say, like attracts like, so an average person will likely end up with another average person. But I guess it is easier to buy an attractive wife off a scammer site. You'd think someone close to each of the men would've gave them some tough love and told them that they were delusional in the pursuit of the sex object house wives, but I guess it is more entertaining to watch the crazy up close.

All of the men should've took their money and spent it on therapy instead of throwing it down the mail-order bride drain. Everything about each of them screamed "in need of intense therapy".

All in all, this was a real head smacker of a documentary. I don't know if it was entertaining, informative, or just plain mind-boggling.

[–] highpriestess32 9 years ago

Great analysis, thanks for taking the time to respond and intelligently so 

I think it was all three of those things and more. You can add frustrating to that list!

I completely agree with your elaborations too - especially your character references. Call me a cynic but in my personal experiences I have found a lot of men to be attentive as hell until they've got you under their roof and that's when the facade (something they don't even realise IS a facade on their part half of the time they are that blind-sided with lust and what they think is "love"), slips and they revert back to whatever child-like obsession that they engage in when not in hot pursuit of a woman who they start to treat like a second mother in terms of what they want doing (cooking, cleaning, laundry...etc.).

Ergo the large guy you spoke of would probably continue to sit in his gaming chair with his 3-D slasses shooting zombies or whatever, pretty damn quickly after securing a wife of any age and/or appearance. They say women don't know what they want - give me a break. It is men like this who think they know what they want but fail to find it for very long because they put a woman on a pedastal until the chase is over then by complete contrast they become neglectful cavemen again....and wonder why they can't find lasting happiness! Yawn.

"Has anyone seen my wife?" - Columbo

[–] BlackDog123 9 years ago

And, really, what is wrong with two average people finding love? I mean, I am pudgy and 34, and I would feel pretty damned weird walking around hand-in-hand with a decade-younger gym rat. I love that my bf and I are the same age, and he's super tall (important to me) and very handsome in a lumberjack kind of way (which I find hot as hell), but he's not Channing Tatum (sorry, babe). I'm overweight, but I've really never had a problem getting dates. I mean, not always with the person I really liked, but if I had low standards for compatibility like the dudes in the movie, I would never have been single for a second of my life. Never, ever. But my bf and I are a great match, just two reasonably intelligent and successful, attractive in our own ways, people. If you are generally nice, and try to take care of yourself/play up your assets, whatever they may be, take a genuine interest in others, and are a complete person on your own/secure in who you are, you can find someone.

What do these guys think is so wrong with that?! Even the guy at the end, who re-connected with an old (American) girlfriend - he was all grabby with her, and she really looked no different than the Ukrainian women he pursued. I'm sure most of them were nice men, but the thirst and insecurity they had was absolutely inescapable.

They're coming to get you, Barbara!

[–] cookiela2001 9 years ago

I find it really REALLY creepy when the men say they are disenchanted (or whatever) with "American women." That means they can't get along with half the people in our country!!

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[–] picturetaker 9 years ago

Isn't the United States flooded with people who are there illegally or on a work visa or whatever? These guys are just lazy. I live in Canada and if I were truly desprate I could marry a number of Temporary Foreign Workers that I know of. I'm not but seriously these guys are pure lazy.

Now I admit as a guy I like Russian accents but thats because I like to do one. Haha.

[–] highpriestess32 9 years ago

Lol everyone likes accents. A Dutch lady yesterday after watching my hamster video with me waffling on in the background said I had a lovely voice and a female Australian friend said I sounded like the Queen hahaha (I am a Brit) 

Take my advice. Talk to yourself in a Russian accent in the mirror and save yourself 10 thousand Bucks lol 

"Has anyone seen my wife?" - Columbo