I felt a red flag go up the first time she said that she wished she had been the one there when he had cancer ... because I felt like she was making it about herself and her jealousy, not her concern for him. Then she said it again, that she "hated that it was her that got you through the cancer. I hated it."
I agree. While it's understandably a sensitive area, the way she approached it was only from her naive assumptions (that the ex must either be a gold digger or a saint) and her insecurities. A proactive and compassionate route would have been to suggest meeting the ex immediately, to see if they could help her as a team, to feel involved and learn more from the other woman about the man she loves and maybe bring him some closure. Instead, she immediately got defensive, so he felt obligated to compartmentalize his time with two of the people he feels he owes. His health improved and he became financially rich, but he was still in debt emotionally. That's why he breaks down from guilt and apologizes for abandoning Franny, rather than ditch her again with some nurse-it's important to both of them that he earn her forgiveness.
He should have broken up with her before sleeping with Franny, but prior to that he didn't actually seem comfortable with Jodi. She was childish, kind of spoiled and he couldn't tell her his true feelings about his illness and resulting relationship trauma, so they were already doomed. A twinge of jealousy is normal to experience every once in a while, but to feel it all the time indicates a lack of trust, resentment or self-esteem issues that will inevitably cause more problems.
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