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Long distance suck

posted 9 years ago by Vismyname
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Man, this movie hit me like a rock in the head. For me it has a lot of similarity about my past relashionship, it was like looking through the eyes of Sergi, the only thing distinc was the fact in my case was only 4 month of relashionship here, before she left, while the two characters had 6 years, if i recall from the opening discussion.

Man, life and long distance is hard, but i think it is harder for the one that stays behind, like Sergi did. He had the same routine like he usually did, while for her, things changed almost 180 and she started forgeting him and became a bit selfish (the scene when she forgets his exams).

I think this movie is actually a lesson of how hard these things are and how fragile love actually is. While he wanted to stay faithfull (and was until they had that break up) and work this out, she got lost in translation and little by little forgot about him. Why do people act like that, what is the trigger? Maybe this is a human reaction of how people take other people for granted? And then all comes down to the final discussion, what destroyed their relashionship?

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[–] freddiebraun 8 years ago

Sorry to hear that!

I've had something similar happen in the past as well. Have you seen Like Crazy? Similarly heartbreaking/real ending.

I think what happens is that people are ultimately selfish beings (that sounds more nihilistic than I mean it) - I just mean that people have a finite attention span, and even though passion and love are strong feelings, they need to be constantly worked on, or the fire dies. This is ultimately what differentiates real life (as depicted here) from the Hollywood ending, during which the protagonists kiss, thereby erasing all of the negativity that came before.

Relationships are hard work, and they're harder work when they're based on long-distance. Most of the time, it's no one's fault - emotions just run their course, as much as that sucks.

[–] Vismyname 8 years ago

Like Crazy was amazing.

The last scene hit me like the midnight train and I saw it before my experience. The whole relationship they had in that movie was so different and so amazing for a Hollywood movie.

I think you are right, however, they seem to not have many problems, but the frustrations she had came to life when she left. Maybe she considered Sergi responsible for her ... not failure, but professional status-quo? Who knows.

If you enjoyed Like Crazy, you should try In Search of the Midnight Kiss and most of all, Before we Go, the director`s debut of Chris Evans. They are a bit different, the plot is how two people can connect during one amazing night, but they really hit you with a bitter sweetness.

PS: And don't forget 5 Centimeters per Second. One of the saddest long distance movie ever.

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[–] roy78 8 years ago

I felt the same about this film. I happen to stumble upon it and it really hit me same as you. probably because I've had that sort of relationship in the past as well. I think some couples can survive a long distance relationship as long as they really love each other and want to be together no matter what and are willing to take upon the "suffering" period until the moment they will reunite. but that is clearly not the case in 10.000 km.

To answer your question I'd say that I think there is some truth in the fact that people are selfish beings as suggested in another post but that is not the main issue here since Sergi is not depicted as selfish. He encourages Alex to go. He comforts her when she is having doubts about her decision(The scene when she says that she doesn't know what she's doing there). He is there for her but as time passes he starts realizing that she is not there for him (forgets his exam and so forth) which leads him to despair(the thrashing of her things, the drinking). so if anyone is selfish its Alex. One could argue about this point and say Sergi is also a selfish person because Alex also came to Barcelona for him in the beginning but they were 7 years younger and their lives probably weren't as committed like the present to work and studies and we don't really know what happened back than. what we know is what we see happening now.

In any case I wouldn't use the word selfish. I think Alex is a more independent and ambitious person than Sergi. and I'm not casting any blame or saying one is a better person than the other. I'm just saying they are different and that is in a nutshell the answer to what you are asking. He wants to have a kid but she wants to have a career. He is more down to earth and she wants to follow her dreams. I don't think he would have done the same (go for a year) had the situation been reversed. I think he would have given up the opportunity not because he loves her more than his career but because he is a different person. I think the moment she decided to get on the plane their relationship was doomed and we are watching the slow decay of their love. or more accurately the slow decay of Alex's love. once she was feeling happy and excited about her new life the cost of losing Sergi became a minor loss and with that realization she lost whatever feelings she still had for him. she had convinced herself he is not the only man in the world and that she can pursue her career and find another soulmate in the future. Sergi's love remained intact. he went there and hoped she would fall in his arms but she had already made her choice so we are left with two people that are so close and yet so far in that last sad and unforgettable scene