I think you are correct in that it would be harder losing someone suddenly than seeing them waste away, at least afterward. With losing them suddenly, you don't get to say goodbye or say the things you've always wanted to.
One thing to remember: even though you didn't get to say goodbye or make peace with them, the person most likely knew deep down how you felt already. But still, yes, more regret with this situation.
The other would be difficult to handle as well, but like you said, you can say those things you want to. Also, in most cases, the person can be on medications, sometimes copious amounts of medications, that take care of the pain and other things, though not all. In this case, though, you can say those things you want to. Either way, devastating.
A lesson to this? Always let the people you care about know that you care about them (even though they probably already know).
Sorry for your losses.
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