Mimi's daughter said that her mom got mad at her and stopped speaking to her.
When the filmmaker said "may I ask why?"
She just said "No... "
What could the daughter have done to make Mimi so mad that she wouldn't speak to her for 18 years?
Any guesses?
Well Mimi mentioned that sometimes children get angry or upset when parents divorce, and some of Mimi's friends guessed she might have thought they were favouring their dad over their mom. Another wondered if Mimi was not as nice when she was younger. I thought she looked gentle in the photos, though maybe she was hard on them or tough with them in some ways? Maybe she just didn't want them to see her vulnerable and in a bad way, she was too proud so she created the distance instead and it was so painful for her, the distance, that she made a complete break and it was too hard to go back as more years went by. Sometimes the distance just grows out of control. You could see that she simply would not allow herself to dwell on this pain too much. Living in the present with no regrets was how she survived although you could sometimes see pain and regret creep into her eyes when talking about it. Her sense of humour helped her, her lack of self pity and pride too. That they found each other and met once a week was really great. This was a great documentary! Not a weepy one either, she made me laugh quite a bit. No wonder so many people care about her and are genuinely friends with her, she' s a strong survivor but also very fun and really funny too.
When you get up in the morning, how do you decide what shade of black to wear? (Shallow Grave)
Thanks for your thoughtful reply.
I agree that people stop speaking for reasons that seem important at the time, and then as each year passes it doesn't seem as important but time makes it harder to reconnect.
I had a fight with my best friend. We were friends since age 7 then at age 27 we had the falling out.
Earlier this year we reconnected and got together to hang out (both of us age 47 now)
We both said we wished we had done it sooner.
So we were best friends for 20 years.
Then we stopped being friends.
Now 20 years later we're friends again.
If there's a friend or family member you haven't spoken to for years, ask yourself WHY? Is it really all worth it?
You can't get those lost years back.
Call them today. Text them. Send them a message in facebook. They're probably hoping you will.