So the gal definitely has serious emotional pain and with good reason no doubt.. yet once she realizes she must deal with it instead of acting out by sleeping with every guy that looks at her, the solution is to create a blog?!?
I was expecting some years in therapy, but I guess no need when you can just work out your issues with some cutesy stalkerish posts online!
It was more that she blogged her working out of issues, and her willingness to work out the issues, than the blog was "the solution".
It's a shorthand, but obviously "years of therapy" would make for a crappy movie.
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I saw the trailer and it looks interesting. Should I watch? I am familiar with Emily from watching her on "Revenge" and "Brothers and Sisters". I am a fan of her work. Is this movie scary? I don't really like scary movies.
shareI saw the trailer and it looks interesting. Should I watch?
I didn't think they showed that as having anything to do with solving her issues. That was only a way to try to apologize to her boyfriend. The "start" to dealing with her issues was finally confronting her abuser.
share^ This is exactly how I received it as well. Confronting her abuser, professing how badly she was scarred, hearing him try to ration that "it was a long time ago", it all seemed to bring Alice closer towards closure.
The most telling moment was after she and Emmett had made up and were laying in his bed when he asked "You're the girl from the book aren't you?" to which she replied "Not anymore".
Great film!
Yeah, right ... I don't think you get it.
shareThe film really loses its bearings with the romantic subplot and the redemption climax with a blog seems like it was cut and pasted from another romantic comedy script--also, she's supposed to be a brilliant if insecure writer and her climactic writing revelation amounts to a list that wouldn't have been accepted from Huffington Post Women's site. That resolution also sends the message that all a troubled girl needs is the love of a good man (manic pixie dream guy?) and your problems will be solved, not the therapy she clearly needs; notice that she never tells him about her teenage relationship with an older man, or how everyone in the movie treats her anguish more as a jilted lover than the emotional abuse and statutory rape that contributed to it. It's too bad the film falters in the third act, because it was holding its own as a character study and a showcase performance by Emily Van Camp.
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I saw the movie and I am confused. What happened between Alice and Milan did he rape her? It did not look like it. The sex / relationship looked consensual. Did they even end up having sex? Why is everyone calling him "an abuser"? He was not in any authoritative position over her, (teacher, parent, coach,ect) so why was their "romance" so wrong?
shareShe was a minor and he was a successful writer given access to her in a "mentorship" capacity.
She looked up to him and valued his approval and acceptance, therefore he was in a position of power over her.
Because of that power dynamic, when he made sexual advances towards her (fondling a minor's genitals is sexual and criminal), she was not in a position to resist or reject him.
Because she was an adolescent, she did not have the mental or emotional maturity to maneuver the situation, and so she gave herself up. Then, because of her immaturity, she was damaged by the encounter.
This is why it is illegal to have sex with people under 18- not necessarily because it's a magic number, but because teenagers are not on an equal playing field with adults. Thus, anytime a mature adult is having sex with a teenager, you have to question the validity of the "consent."
This is also why minors cannot "consent" to sex, by law. Their brains don't really get what it's all about, and the lasting effects can be very harmful.
I'm sure there are individual exceptions to these rules, like any other. But lawmakers don't have the time or resources to interview every 15-year-old who wants to have sex to gauge their maturity. So they pick ages, draw lines, and make laws accordingly.
He's 55. She's 15. She was a very young, vulnerable 15 at that and he emotionally manipulated her, sexually abused her and stole her writing, her story and her words from her journal to create a book that became a best-seller.
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