stop blaming the victim

I have noticed many of the comments on these videos are suggesting some of these women have somehow "brought these stalking incidents on themselves," or somehow deserve this. (and yes, the victims of every episode so far that I've seen has been a woman stalked by a man, although I know that is not always the case in life - I know of at least two stalking cases woman to man-- I wonder if the victim would be blamed, then, too.) I thought we had gotten past in society blaming the victim. This could happen to any one of us. These women seem like your average person caught up in a bad situation, mostly because of their own kindness or sympathy or because of love. And these stalking cases are rare. If we start being afraid of everyone, to the point where we can't even go upstairs to have a cup of coffee with someone who seems like a friendly oddball, or help a student in need, then it's us who lose and no one will be kind to anyone who doesn't fit society's norms. And what's really to blame is that no matter how hard these women try to protect themselves, no one does anything till it is almost too late.