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Thoughts on each of the boys...


I was just wondering if other people had the same impressions as I did of each of the boys:

Brian: Committed a horrible crime but has really tried to take responsibility for his actions. I know he wasn't abused but I wonder about any unknown genetic/mental health issues with him being adopted. As presented in the film, assuming its all true and he continues to progress, I'd be comfortable with him being eligible for parole after 20 years or so.

Torey: Possibly a sociopath. It seems like everyone has this same reactions. I had this reaction when I saw his photo and video before the crimes and before I knew he wasn't taking any responsibility...I hate to judge him off that but he just looks like someone without a conscious. Unless and until he does some serious changing, he shouldn't be released.

Josiah: A very damaged young man. That he could start to say that everything was fine growing up shows this. He needs some serious help and should probably be serving his time in a state mental health facility, if we still actually had such things outside of underfunded and understaffed prison wards (and that's a topic for another documentary all together).

Sean: The poster boy for the argument against mandatory life without parole for juveniles. He did the work and proved that these kids can change.

Jacob: Perhaps the toughest for me to read. I fully believe that he was horribly abused and of all of the boys he took it out on the "right" person, if such a thing can be said to exist. He says all of the right things but I fear that perhaps the abuse has broken this particular person to a point that he isn't quite right. If my internet psychology license is worth anything (it isn't) and I am right about him, it sucks. It's not his fault but sometimes there are people who can't be fixed and not for lack of trying. I hope I am wrong. Perhaps he just isn't comfortable on camera but he did talk about really having to work at trying to develop a sense of empathy and that is something that sociopaths struggle with.

Okay...done sharing...spent far too much time thinking about this but would love to hear what others thought on each of them.

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My thoughts exactly!

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100% agree!

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I agree with you. I did earn a degree in something related with assessment in criminal environments, which might mean that a degree is as valuable as common sense.

Sean is the example that it's not the system that has to "rehabilitate" this people, it's up to them if, how and when they want to do it.

And the problem with victims like Jacob is that they're not wrong, they have the right feelings for a person who was so severely abused. Unfortunately that doesn't mean they can be free and live a normal life. Their background ruined them, it's not something they did to themselves, but the result is the same.

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Brian - I think he seems very remorseful, but I also think he is doing *a lot* of acting. The reason I say this is because there are times when he is talking about details (as an adult) and he shows some elation when doing so. Probably had no idea he was giving himself away like that. I think he may even truly want to be a different person and change but there's a reason he vetted a victim and calculated a detailed murder scenario with Torey, and the reason goes deeper than just being an outcast or disenfranchised person. It was interesting when he mentions to the adoptive mother that he told her he wanted some counseling. You notice how he mentions that the courts do not want to hear someone say they are innocent? He's deliberate and I think suffers from the same pathology as Torey, he is just more intelligent than Torey.

Torey - oh where do I even... He should be the poster child for helicopter parents who never make their children take any responsibility for their actions. "He's such a kind, kind...." Kind, kind children do not pick a victim, create a plan and then brutally murder others. I will agree with Brian that Torey is still on his first day. He's still avoiding any responsibility or accountability and both parents enable him to do just that very thing. Some of the comments that stood out for me from him in the video: "I'm horny just thinking about it" and, when explaining why killing should be legal he goes on to say if you try to restrict it people are just going to want it even more. Both of these comments suggest a pathology that cannot simply be "rehabilitated" if you will. Torey is a danger to society and he needs to never be let out. I notice how his mother looks away whenever he talks about the crime. Denial runs deep in that clan.

Jacob - he is very different from our first 2 killers. He appears to be a product of what happens when someone is pushed too far. I don't think he is the same serial killer M.O as both Brian and Torey and I do think he could be successful with rehabilitation.

Josiah - I don't know, could be like Jacob but maybe not. I felt I did not really see enough to help me form an opinion.

Sean - Sean seemed completely genuine and I don't think he had any sort of pathology like Brian and Torey.

Overall, I appreciate the documentary for showing such a diverse bunch. They were all guilty of murder but you could understand through a compare and contrast; which killers were pathological and which likely were not. It made the law make sense for me. I could realize why in some cases, not every sentence should be mandatory life without parole - but - some cases, really do need to be. I think Brian and Torey need to be lifers simply because I'm not quite sure we have yet found a proven treatment for curing someone of being a psychopath.

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Dead On(pardon the pun) on Brian. He is acting, he is proud of what he did, he "got into Columbine", he is just smart enough to control the lesser sociopath with the helicopter parents. Watching Brian made me want to ask "Who *beep* believes this dude? He is as transparent as wet tissue!" And yes, Torey is on Day One because his parents want to make excuses for him and he is spoonfed "you are a kind, kind, kind person" so he thinks he has done nothing wrong.

Jacob complete separate case. Not obsessed with some other student(Brian), not obsessed with being "disenfrachised" or not fitting in, a victim of a sick bunch or wackos as a child and yes, he is guilty but extenuating circumstances in my opinion.

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I agree about your assessment of Brian in particular. (I won't go into the other criminals.) But with Brian, I got the impression that he would most definitely kill again if he was released. No question. He needs to stay where he is forever.

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I watched this yesterday and I'm already struggling to remember: did they actually described Josiah's crime at all? I know they talked about his past (parents in a religious cult and repeated sexual abuse by "prophets") but I don't remember any details of who he killed and how/why. All I remember is his sister at the end saying that she needs to believe that he is not guilty. Any chance that his last name is Ivy? If so, from what I've read, he sounds about as innocent as Brian and Torey. Maybe he was (is) mentally ill, but definitely not innocent. If I'm reading about the right guy. Anyone know?

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@ginger-51

Yeah, that's Josiah Ivy. He "thrill-killed" an innocent couple in their home.

His sister is just having a very difficult time excepting his psychopathy/sociopathy. It's never easy for a family to admit such a broken "monster" is among them. However, there is no way to re-wire a brain of that magnitude.

Josiah should never be let out, like Brian and Torey.



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Yeah...to be honest, I worry a whole lot more about the ones who are in denial and have family/friends who are in denial too. If they (or important people in their life) owned up to what they had done, I'd be more likely to think that they might catch it before it got that far off track again...but if they really believe they are innocent victims, and their family and friends think so too, then it's like everyone is asleep at the switch. That worries me greatly.

Even if it WAS caused by repeated sexual abuse and upbringing in a cult...just because there was a reason and he was a victim at one point, that doesn't automatically mean he won't re-offend. Maybe his damage is too significant.

That makes me sad.

Thanks for confirming that it was who I thought it was.

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I think Brian is a monster. He clearly chose to kill Cassie because he wanted to own her, fake her for himself. And, he chose to take Z Torey down with him. By not telling the truth he continues to exert ownership and control over Cassie and over Torey. Torey is obviously an immature and weak person, which is not an excuse, but these qualities are how Brian continues to control him.
I would not be comfortable with Brian being free because he does not understand how he is a psychopath. Brian does not process relationships naturally. He chooses to own others rather than be a part of their life. The way he still believes he loves Cassie is a large red flag. That in itself tells you he has no remorse. He imagines Cassie is his to love. In fact, he imagines he alone loves her and through the act of killing her, he has appointed himself keeper of her memory.

I think Torey simply can not grow up because he is in prison. He is too immature to process his environment. As long as Brian continues to be in control of Torey's personal story, Torey will not be able to grow. Torey wanted to get away with something- I doubt he truly wanted to murder her- but he was looking to do something to make a fool out of others. This is a unique dysfunctional personality that is very difficult to get out of because the person's identity is tied to a form of escapism. Torey ties his self esteem to a private act carried out against the community. Because he is unwilling to connect with the community he can not grow.

Josiah needs to be treated with compassion. He was warped by his upbringing. As a victim, he could be rehabilitated because he knows pain. I don't think being surrounded by screaming crazies is right- as obviously you pointed out.

Jacob seems very aware. He seems to have integrity, which means that he feels justified in his actions. Considering what he went through, many people would agree. Sadly, when individuals feel justified in taking the law into their own hands, there is the risk of them feeling justified in the future. If Jacob was released and he became aware of someone who triggered his trauma through abusing a child he knows or through the abuse of power in his life, he might choose again to take the law into his own hands. There is the fact he did try to get help. If that part of the story is true and if he does feel remorse about not getting the authorities involved, he may be capable of rehabilitation. But, that is not a risk that any official should take. At this time, not ready. In future, possible. He has his brother, who could provide a connection to a functional adult as a model of an integrated survivor of abuse.

Sean seems to be rehabilitated but we see such a small sliver of him. He has spent a lot of time learning the words of religious teachings. So, unless we know his personal history and actions as a prisoner it is difficult to evaluate the quality of his recovery.

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The only 2 that I think deserve parole are Sean and Jacob. Sean said he only shot to scare them, it wasn't an intentional premeditated murder. He was full of regret and turned his life around. Jacob killed in self defence. It's wrong to incarcerate someone for killing their abusers. I wouldn't care if every child molester got murdered by their victims. He showed a lot more empathy for them in the documentary than I had for them.

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Honestly Torey scared the heck out of me with everything he said in those videos. It blew my mind that family wanted to play innocent. Of all 3 in those videos he seemed 100 times as demented with everything he said.

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