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Parents Interfering.

posted 7 years ago by cwooten2005
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My husband had a psychotic episode while coming home from working out of state, where he was experiencing things that weren't happening. He hadn't slept or eaten in days. I reached out to his parents earlier this summer about reckless behavior and I REGRET IT. They and my parents got deep into our business! (I have severe ADD, anxiety, and clinical depression, husband is believed to be bipolar, but has been diagnosed with depression and we thought ADD, also). When his parents came to visit from overseas, they used that time to chastise my husband.

Also, before their visit, while he was working out of state, they were constantly blowing up his FB messenger and his phone. Because I had reached out, thinking they would actually help. He almost divorced me over it! We're struggling to make it work, but we're making some progress, now that we set boundaries with our parents. Sad, because we're in our 30s, married for several years with 2 kids. We're not babies. We're not incapable.

The parents in the movie treated their adult kids like that, too. I could relate so much to that aspect of it!

[–] saturnjwl 7 years ago

It was so tricky in this movie to define what is and is not acceptable behavior. It doesn't hurt anyone to write poetry or stare at the moon, but it becomes a threat when someone's behavior is endangering their family.

I would say that parents are good allies because they will always care, but it's problematic if they view their adult children as babies. Just because an adult isn't entirely self-sufficient doesn't make that person a child.