oj,neil,john and zach,they have all thrown some shade in some form or fashion,hell even tom did it but,he is still on the show ,so it is what it is with him.I guess nicole is the only one that can't speak,just not buying that.
Well, one of these things is not like the other.
Here's a hint: probably only one of them has ever been told "you should smile more; you'd look prettier if you smiled"
As in many businesses, when men speak up or push back, they are commended. When they are assertive, they are admired, commended and often rewarded. Even when they are pushed out and lose, people don't think worse of them simply because they advocate for themselves. They can push back, talk trash, call each other out, and that's just how it goes.
When women speak up and push back, they are called "aggressive" "B*tch!" and worse. And with Nicole being a black woman, I imagine that effect is multiplied.
There have been studies that when women speak up or try to negotiate employment terms, they suffer negative consequences that male co-workers don't:
It’s not that men are immune from being seen as tough or unlikeable when they make aggressive demands. Attempting to negotiate can make anyone seem less nice, Bowles repeatedly found. But it’s only women who subsequently suffer a penalty: people report that they would be less inclined to work with them, be it as coworkers, subordinates, or bosses. The effect is especially strong, Bowles has found, when people observe women who engage in salary negotiations. “Money in particular seems to be a hot one,” she says.
http://www.newyorker.com/science/maria-konnikova/lean-out-the-dangers-for-women-who-negotiateLook at Jennifer Lawrence speaking out after the Sony hack, and all the flack she got. She was seen as being greedy and pushy and aggressive...after admitting that she probably didn't negotiate as much as she should have, and got paid much less than her male costars as a result, because she was afraid to be seen as not nice enough.
And look at television history, filled with women who were labeled as "b*tch" "difficult to work with" "b*ll b*sters" and had trouble finding work, simply for speaking up, sharing their thoughts, and wanting to be part of the creative process: Kate Jackson, Cybill Shepard, Candice Bergen, etc etc
Mindy Kaling has spoken about the difficultly with being a women who speaks her mind in Hollywood:
Another conflict she addressed during her talk is balancing her need, as a producer, to be authoritative with wanting to be liked. "I am very decisive, but I also care what people think of me," Mindy explained, "I want it to be a certain way, but if I stay for too long, I'm like, 'But there's some wiggle room.'[...] I'm very assertive, even to the point of being brusque, and then I just send cupcakes with a note that says 'I'm sorry that I was so assertive. Love, Mindy.'" She elaborated on the "cottage industry" in LA of "apology gifts" to send for being too assertive as a woman, including flowers and puppies."I'm sorry I demanded respect at that meeting, here's a puppy party," she joked. It's funny, but all too telling.
And she's the boss!
Yeah, there may be reasons why Nicole is not speaking out, when some of her former costars did. It may be an NDA, it may be that she decided to take the high road, or that it's just not worth it. But given the way the world works ATM, none of the most likely reasons are reasons to throw shade at
her IMO.
Have a lovely day - John Finnemore
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athiec-94538
8 years ago
I wasn't throwing shade as as a fan of the show as well as Nicole,I was just wondering.That's all
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