Famil Court Abuse
Who has been there, or is going through this?
Would like to speak with you.
I was divorced in 2001. The judge treated me well until I could no longer afford my attorney. (By well I mean trending his rulings to give a little to both sides.) When I had to represent myself, my ex was given more than she asked for and my visitation with my son was reduced to 3 hours, twice a week.
He previously had lived with me half of the time, even during temporary orders.
I did nothing different in my life before or after the loss of my attorney; the changes were made by arbitrary judicial fiat. Apparently the judge didn't like having to explain and/or correct me if I didn't follow his approved "procedure" and verbally expressed irritation (You Will Not Talk About That In My COURT!) when I brought up some of my ex's defects to counter the list of my own her attorney was flinging at me.
Amazing what a difference having the money to pay for an attorney makes...
And yes, I did fantasize about my ex dying in a car wreck (as well as a random accident to end the lives of said judge's children, just so he would know what it felt like to have a child you love brutally stripped from your life.)
All meat is tasty. Jews, muslims, and Vaggitarians are Dumb.
Never been married so I can't imagine the pain and stress people like you are going through. I started to take notice of it about two years ago on court shows. I said to myself, its better to wait to get married and have kids then having them out of wedlock. But the same effects will show if I get divorced with 1 or more kids. Since 2012, I felt like its better to have a wife from another country then a American women.
After I see this movie, I will become even more skeptical about marriage in America.
God has a hard on for marines because we kill everything we see. He plays his game, we play ours.
No matter what happens in life, things are better with children. We only have one opportunity to leave a legacy - make babies as often as you can afford - I have 3 now and I'd rather die and leave them homeless than never have seen and felt the love I get from them every single day.
People who tell you how to be a parent that don't have kids themselves deserve prison time, btw.
All meat is tasty. Jews, muslims, and Vaggitarians Are Dumb.
That came out wrong. I would rather have had kids than not, is what I meant to say. I have family back up. I truly feel for they who don't.
Worked with a guy who had 2 daughters with a dead mommy. One of the best guys I've ever known. He worked the 5 AM shift so that he could get his daughters up and ready for a 6 AM bus and then be back for them before they got off the bus at 4.
He lived only for his daughters. I wish I was a as good as him.
All meat is tasty. Jews, muslims, and Vaggitarians Are Dumb.
I can understand having a family of your own is the greatest blessing anyone can have. It's the fact that some of these women manipulate man just to get a payday. Not saying that all of them are like that but if your a man that has a stable income or more then the average person, it's not wise to get a women pregnant if you only known them for 2 or three years.
I rather adopt kids then knock up any women and come out on the receiving end of a bad court battle.
God has a hard on for marines because we kill everything we see. He plays his game, we play ours.
At both times I had a solid and respectable income. Things change too quickly in a small town that borders a larger city. BTW, I said I'd rather be homeless as an expression of how much they meant to me, not that I actually was homeless. I still maintain a good household and my kids eat just fine (some of their clothes are hand-me-downs, though. I only let them wear the nicer ones to school, regardless.)
ACUPUNCTURE - "Really! You'll feel better if I stab you with needles repeatedly!"
You come off as a terrible human being. People who can objectively see when a child is being harmed should be in prison? F$ck you. Your mentality of having a litter of criminal loser children vs. living responsibly and childless is what destroys societies.
shareExcuse the F%#@ outta me, but have you ever had to deal with a person who has never had a kid TELL YOU how to raise a kid. You are flat out pathetic for making such a summary judgement. If you don't know what it's like to be in my situation, then I wish the same on you. Let's see how you handle it.
ACUPUNCTURE - "Really! You'll feel better if I stab you with needles repeatedly!"
Ya know, you know nothing.
I am raising a 5 and 6 year old, daughter and son, respectively, on my own.
The mom is off in jail or doing meth or back and forth, and my kids have never missed a day of school, never even been late, unless they were sick. I mean, throwing up or 103 fever sick. My son had the best attendance in his class last year. They are both in their top group as far as both reading and math are concerned. They are always clean, they always wear clean clothes, and my daughter's extremely curly hair is always well brushed when she gets on the bus.
They both love Brussel Sprouts and Asparagus and even Mushrooms, because I only fed them such foods. They are both asleep by 7:30 or 8:00 every night, and we have a tuck in/snuggle routine that I have to sometimes use a deny-if-you-don't-get-your-PJ's-on threat because Daddy's love is so important to them (and I have NEVER had to make due on said threat!)
My young'uns are loud, boisterous and loving, and they always back each other up if one gets in trouble, even if they're getting in trouble for doing something naughty towards the other. They are good kids, and I've been raising them both since the 6 YO was barely 3.
So go screw yourself, you judgmental SOB. You THINK you know what you're talking about, but you"re really just talking out your ass.
Loser.
ACUPUNCTURE - "Really! You'll feel better if I stab you with needles repeatedly!"
The major thing that I fear is having enough financial support. It's one thing to be financially stable for having kids but its another to have x amount without having any strong support.
God has a hard on for marines because we kill everything we see. He plays his game, we play ours.
Totally with you. I have a lot of support from my family, both in kid-sitting and "here's a twenty I know ya need it..."
I'm also raising my kids to be a part of our family, as lame as that may sound. My youngest son is learning what work actually means, and my little girl is battling me about chewing with her mouth open.
Kinda sucks with no "other parent help," but at least I can raise them to be responsible citizens, not abnormal grandiose weird people like their ma, who set up four visitations and missed all three following the first (she set up and missed every one of the missed. Not me.)
ACUPUNCTURE - "Really! You'll feel better if I stab you with needles repeatedly!"
That's the right step to making sure they have morals and self discipline. Get them prepared now so that by the time there in their high school years, they will grasp what the other kids don't know about the real world. Ever since the economy sank in 2008, people have become more alert of the critical situation for making a decent living. With college grads coming out of school with student debt, its hard for most of them to want to have multiple kids if their income is not bringing in enough to get that debt down.
I graduated in 2011 with a Bachelors in Business Administration and can't see myself with kids at this time or anytime until I get that debt down. I might be the minority who is thinking like that but hey, I am looking out for my interest.
God has a hard on for marines because we kill everything we see. He plays his game, we play ours.
Firstly, love the sig.
I am totally with you. In this economic situation, it makes more sense for an 18 y/o to learn a skill like welding or transcription than it does to waste 4 years pursuing a useless degree. I'm trying to get my boys to go into welding - at least it's useful and it pays well.
4 year colleges won't exist in 30 years, IMO, because the people who are on the hook (PARENTS) are getting tired of paying $100,000.00 so that their kids can move back into the basement and owe a lotta money for a worthless piece of paper.
ACUPUNCTURE - "Really! You'll feel better if I stab you with needles repeatedly!"
I hear that! With the heavy student loan debt that's so high, the president has to address the issue. It will be interesting how these universities will be in 20 years. If tuition is getting higher and the graduates are coming out not making enough money, it can cause a chain reaction that can have a lot of major universities coming up short.
God has a hard on for marines because we kill everything we see. He plays his game, we play ours.
Lol, I can sense the frustration right through my phone.
I have a 21 year old. I went through this hell back in the late 90's with my ex. With the judge making me pay support in addition to her legal fees, I couldn't afford an attorney.
It's absolute *beep* how bad the system is. Actually it's the people with power.. the judges and attorneys who are all one big group of pals who really screw it up. The worst part is how little they actually care about the impact on kids. It may all look like it's set up to look out for them from the outside, but it's not. Not one of these people who perpetrate these acts on others would want their children to go through it. I guess it takes a warped sense of humanity to be in this business... especially judges.
Luckiky, my ex got into another relationship and became less vindictive after a few years. She started going well beyond the adjudication of the visitation (I hate that word) and luckily I was able to keep a strong bond with my daughter. I owe that to my ex. Not the court in any way.
What does that say about the sytem?? When your bitter ex is more concerned with a father's rights than the court, something is wildly *beep* up.
Good luck to ya with your situation.