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We Are Finished As A Society


The ignorance, fear, and impotent rage expressed by a great number of people in this documentary is evidence that we are regressing as a society. The violence that occurs everywhere, the lack of empathy for fellow citizens shown by the wealthy and those in Washington, the ineffective school systems, the virtual economy that excludes millions...these are all indicators of a country that is quickly heading towards collapse. Or at the very least, things will have to get much worse before they can ever get better.

The jurors who were depicted after the first trial, discussing the merits of the case, wearing the "Save Brandon" bracelets...disgusting. I can't imagine those people would feel that way if their own child was the one murdered. It boggles the mind...the idiocy. And, again, more evidence that our society has its priorities totally out of whack.


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Society is definitely in trouble if people like yourself can't understand or accept that there exists different views/opinions to your own.

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If that different opinion is that a MURDER victim somehow brought about his own demise, then yes...society is indeed finished. That's not merely a difference of opinion, that's pure insanity. By your logic, it's quite alright to roam the streets and murder those who are different than you. The documentary speaks to MUCH more that a mere difference of opinion. One wonders if you even watched the same film.

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Larry wasn't murdered for being different, if that was the case it would've happened much earlier as he came out at 10. He was murdered for sexually harassing and bullying someone who didn't know how else to handle it. I'm not sure how that equates to randomly killing people who are different as you suggest, but then most people defending Larry here seem to be experts at flawed logic.

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Larry wasn't murdered for being different, if that was the case it would've happened much earlier as he came out at 10. He was murdered for sexually harassing and bullying someone who didn't know how else to handle it.
How can you sympathize with someone who murdered a classmate in cold-blood just because he "didn't know how to handle it."? I was 14 not too long ago and knew right from wrong. It doesn't matter if Brandon came from an abusive, *beep* household and had a sorry upbringing. Yeah, that's sad, but to use that as justification of another boy's murder simply because he had been relentlessly annoying doesn't make any sense. At the end of the day, no one deserves to be shot and killed just because they're 'embarrassing' or annoying.

Plus, everyone seems to forget the fact that Brandon was part of a White Supremacist group and seemed to idolize Hitler, which more than likely contributed to certain notions of a "pure" race (i.e. no homosexuals).

I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves.

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I've never said Brandon was justified in killing Larry so I'm not sure what you're arguing. What I've explained is that there's more to the story than someone being killed simply because they were gay.

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K...we can all see that. What's your point?

I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves.

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The point is there are mitigating factors which mean that he shouldn't have been charged with a hate crime, 1st degree, or as an adult. No one's saying he should've been acquitted, not even the 3 jurors everyone seems to dislike for their differing views.

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I understand your pov, but I respectfully disagree.

I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves.

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This was EXACTLY a 1st Degree case. This was pre-meditated murder and even one of those bored, fat housewives said that it was. Brandon McInerny plotted to kill Larry King. He walked out of that house on that fateful morning, initially forgetting the gun. He WENT BACK INTO THE HOUSE and got it. He took the gun with one goal in mind. And he carried it out. He killed that boy with malice aforethought. That is murder in the first degree. I don't know how anyone with a functioning brain could say otherwise.



Sister, when I've raised hell, you'll know it!

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My impression was that Brandon was threatened by Larry's attention. That doesn't justify murder but Larry needed to leave Brandon alone for his own safety.






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The fact that a child can be murdered in cold-blood, at school just because he is different and have adults justify it is the scariest thing I have seen in a long time. I was for sure those juror's were going to say that they couldn't come up with a verdict because the evidence was weak or maybe even thinking the student was insane. But to think he was just "solving a problem", is criminal in itself.

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I agree totally with the OP and yourself. I had a diifficult time even watching this for all these people who treated Larry, as you said, "a problem to be solved" instead of a human being. The fact that I feel ill from just watching small snippets of his life and treatment by others makes me realize even more how bad things must have been for him. I can't even begin to imagine it. How can so many people do this to a kid? He should have been having fun with his friends, feeling safe in and out of school, and being who he was without worries. People actually seemed to athink that Larry commited the crime because he was transgendered, and that his personality and physical appearance gave Brandon the right to take is life in cold blood. How is this possible?

To the poster who said everyone has the right to their own opinions. I agree 100%, and all of us have a right to disagree with each others opinions, to be shocked by them, and to state our disagreement.

"Everybody lies.."

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I had a diifficult time even watching this for all these people who treated Larry, as you said, "a problem to be solved" instead of a human being.

Reading these comments gives me hope that there still is hope. Some people will understand after watching this, and others will carry on as per usual.

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Yes, kbf. Same here. It took three attempts before I could finish the entire film. Thank you for such an honest and compassionate post.

I'd like also to say something about the documentary itself. The film, I think, despite bringing to light a very difficult subject, left a great many questions unanswered. The filmmakers, I think, were trying to just tell a story and allow the viewers to come to their own conclusions, but many things were presented without comment, and presented in such a way as to even go unnoticed. As I said, it took me three tries to watch the film all the way through, and one reason was because I missed so much during the first two viewings. While I understand why a filmmaker would refrain from presenting a definite opinion, there were a great many aspects of the story that needed clarification. The film is not as effective as it perhaps could have been for this reason. Still, this story needed to be told and I'm glad the film was made.

Also, nowhere in my posts did I suggest that people, either those somehow involved with the case or folks like me who just watched the film, do not have a right to their opinion. Of course they do. But one can certainly rate the validity or reasonableness of another opinion, and perhaps come to a conclusion as to the nature of the person espousing such an opinion. I certainly think that person is wrong, if not totally bereft of human understanding, if they hold the opinion that the young man murdered in this case was somehow responsible for his own death. Not only is such an opinion factually wrong, given the sequence of events, but it is obviously (to me) morally wrong as well. There were a number of people depicted in the film who seemed either unwilling or incapable of putting themselves in Larry's place, or that of those who cared for him. That is a sad testament to the nature of humanity in our country right now, and that's why I suggested that our society is on the brink of collapse.

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There were just as many, if not more "people depicted in the film who seemed either unwilling or incapable of putting themselves in" Brandon's place, so I'm not sure what your beef is.

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Well, pardon those of us who don't wish to identify with a murderer. Call us crazy.



Sister, when I've raised hell, you'll know it!

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The fact that a child can be murdered in cold-blood, at school just because he is different and have adults justify it is the scariest thing I have seen in a long time.


Thank you.

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At least the system worked, that time. There was a mistrial and the perpetrator still ended up in jail with predators like him.

What shocks me the most is that all those people were not even ashamed of flaunting their bigoted views and justifications for murder on camera. It's not that they were trying to disguise it and that the interviewer tricked them into revealing themselves, no no, they were completely openly supporting a murderer, after a trial where they were presented with evidence of the crime.

I'm not going to lie and say I think McInerney is an evil monster. Of both kids, he was the one who was really screwed up. He was just a teenager and his whole life had already led him to violence. I wouldn't wish his family on anyone. Does that justify him murdering a kid, EVEN IF he was coming on to him? Hell no!
There's a difference between thinking that kid needed help and could have been stopped long before anyone gave him an "excuse" to put his finger on the trigger, and thinking he got a raw deal. He is paying for his crime. It's only fair.

For every lie I unlearn I learn something new - Ani Difranco

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No, I agree. The system as well as his family quite obviously failed McInerney. If he is a monster, he is society's Frankenstein. He was indeed screwed up, as you say, and could have been helped by an intervention of some sort. But this gets back to my point...who knows what kind of resources were available to him or his family. The government has cut back on the kinds of programs that help at risk kids. Because of an inability to have empathy, it's easy for politicians to cut those kinds of programs because they see it as unnecessary welfare. They blame people for their own poverty and social problems, not realizing, or more accurately JUST NOT CARING what's at the root of such problems.

Yes, he got 21 years...and that is a LONG time. He could still make a life for himself. HOWEVER, who knows what things are going to be like in 20 years, and will he improve in prison, or simply become a victim once again to a system that doesn't care and isn't interested in reform. He may come out of prison, if he survives at all, infinitely more violent, dangerous, and anti-social.

And the fact that those jurors seemingly did not care about their depiction in the film, that's because they live in a bubble. Nothing gets in that they don't want to get in. What shocked me most was a couple of them were medical professionals. You would think they would have more progressive views about the world. They suffered from gay panic as well, frightened of or angry about people different from them. The one defense attorney, who got the tattoo...I have no idea what to make of her. She came out as a lesbian during the case, according to news reports. She's gay and she states how much she "loves" McInerney, though I can't imagine she spent enough time to REALLY get to know him. There's more than just wanting to help a poor kid there. That's many levels of messed up. I also can't imagine too many people in the gay community agree with her. Bottom line, there is nothing good about any of this case. Nobody seemed to learn a thing...not the school, not the community, and not ANY of the people involved. Only some of the other kids seem to have any common sense at all. Here's hoping they make it out of there with that common sense still intact.

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The one defense attorney, who got the tattoo...I have no idea what to make of her.


You and me both. She completely mystified me. "I just love him." Based on what? I understand the importance of everyone being entitled to the best defense possible and I agree that he should be represented by people who believe in him, but she's taken this to a whole new level. And when you juxtapose her scenes with the security camera footage of McInerny engaging in those FOUR fights, it makes her sentiments seem all the more bizarre.



Sister, when I've raised hell, you'll know it!

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It's been a long while since I've seen the documentary, but I certainly remember the cognitive dissonance I saw on the screen, not to mention the same feelings I had in watching it.

I can only think that the woman in question has long internalized her hatreds, and she is incapable of thinking otherwise.

And so much more insane, violent injustices have occurred since this film, I really do despair for the human race. As I said in my original post, despite the insanity, thinks will have to get worse before they get better.

Thanks for bringing me back to this thread. I may watch this doc again.

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Yeah, I had seen this documentary when it originally aired, but HBO just re-broadcast it a couple of days ago, and I happened to be channel surfing and caught the last hour or so of it. It was still as powerful as the first time I saw it. And even though I'd seen this before, those housewives and that attorney still anger me.



But I happen to think that there is no better time in history than now to be gay. Society in general is coming around, laws are changing and gay is becoming more and more mainstream. The younger generation has far less bigotry and hang-ups than even the members of mine (Gen X). So, although we still hear about horrible atrocities being committed and there are still millions of ignorant people out there, I do have a sense of things getting better. I still have a sense of hope.



Sister, when I've raised hell, you'll know it!

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Indeed. Now, if we could do something about poverty and inequality and the corruption that goes hand in hand with the 1% maintaining its stranglehold on the power centers of the world, then maybe the world could become a better place. Erasing poverty, I think, would take care of SO MANY other problems in the world.

Thanks for your comment and reply.

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I can only think that the woman in question has long internalized her hatreds, and she is incapable of thinking otherwise.
I took a psychology class from a wonderful human who said to us, "There is no hatred as potent as the self-hatred of the outsider." He was referring to anti-woman women (ex.: Phyllis Schlafly), anti-Semitic Jews, black-bashing black people, etc. Luckily, many outsiders retain their identity and sense of self upon entry to the outer part of the inner circle, but some don't -- and their anti- views have the secondary "benefit" (for them) of making them valuable to the inner-inner circle. Horribly sad.

Thank you VERY much for sharing the depth of your humanity and compassion on this thread and no doubt in every part of your life. I too think that things will get worse before they get better -- and, sadly, usually I doubt that things *will* get better, because the propaganda machine is so much stronger than ever before; because the tools of diversion (Internet) are so potent and omnipresent; and because the means of destroying others (from guns to small bombs used domestically to atomic weapons) are so readily available. I hope but I despair.

Thanks again for your contributions. You put one more mark in the "hope" column.

"All you need to start an asylum is an empty room and the right kind of people."

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@Helena727 --

Thanks so much for your insights. It's particularly interesting and goes far in explaining that dynamic, of the depressing phenomenon that is the acceptance of hate in our culture.

That you mention what you learned in a psychology class is telling. It proves that what we might need as a culture is a return to a liberal arts education with an emphasis on the social sciences. There's now an emphasis on the formal sciences (mathematics, engineering) because everybody thinks one only needs to know how to "code" or be conversant with computers and machines. Actually we need literature, philosophy, and psychology so we can be better equipped to understand each other.

It's feedback such as yours that should make us despair less, hopeful that noble human values will prevail.

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Agreed and well said.

"For dark is the suede that mows like a harvest"

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The scene with the three female jurors was pretty effective, the film maker is humiliating them to their faces, and they are going along with it.

Suburbanites boasting about how they got a great buy on wine at Trader Joe's, it doesn't get more trite than that.

Save me from the people who would save me from myself

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You could swear those three jurors thought they were on the series DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES or something, but lack the humanity and empathetic qualities that even the flawed fictional characters from that show possessed! They're self-delusional "elitists" who are about as shallow as the kiddie pool at a sleazy motel!

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Does that justify him murdering a kid, EVEN IF he was coming on to him?


I don't think anyone said point blank that the murder was justified. The point is, if you come on to someone and they're not cool with it, tempers can flare up and someone can potentially get hurt. Is it wrong to respond in a violent way? sure it is, but we don't live in a perfect world, people get angry, especially when it comes to something as personal as sex.... in fact, this is not the first time this has happened. Transgendered people and gays have gotten killed quite often when coming on to someone that is not into it.

I remember that one incident that happened on The Jenny Jones show. A gay guy come on the show and revealed to a straight guy that he was attracted to him, the next day, the straight guy shot him. Trans people and gays need to be careful about this sort of thing. Not everyone is all "peaches and cream" with gayness.

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Americans have little sympathy for their fellow man these days

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Trans people and gays need to be careful about this sort of thing. Not everyone is all "peaches and cream" with gayness.


Yikes! Yikes! Yikes! This board is scary.

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This board is scary.


Not really, whats really scarey is not educating gays and trans people so that they do understand that not everyone is okay with gay sex. In fact, it's an injustice not to explain this to them at a young age. It could actually save their lives.

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Brandon took a gun to school and shot a classmate in the back of the head.... twice. there is no way to spin that. My heart wrenched the whole way through this film. To see people try and justify or sympathise with Brandon was to me, proof that society in general has a long way to go. You're totally right in saying that we are not learning from the mistakes of others. We are not inclusive. We are not tolerant. I think this film should be compulsory viewing for any high school student. These crimes happen too often.

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Yes, yes, and more yes. Well said, all of it.

Thank you.

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