I wish people would think before they talk ....
I wish people would think before they try and comfort someone who has lost a loved one (particularly a child). Saying stuff such as "he's in a better place," "God has a plan," etc is just cringe-worthy IMO.
Even those who have lost a child and are religious still want the child they lost on earth with them. Telling them things like I listed above is in a way belittling a parent's grief.
I realize that most people who say these things only mean to say them as a way to comfort the grieving, but it comes across as not legitimizing a parent's grief, anger, shock and pain of losing their child.
I thought this movie did a fantastic job of covering this subject (which is why I brought it up), regardless if the grieving parents are Christian or not (or any other religion). Please think before you comfort someone who is grieving.
if you're bitter still, ask Him to help you carry on ~ Blue October