It was a moment that gave a little glimmer of insight into Eva's character, her daughter's life (the litterer was a former friend), the relationship that Eva had with her friend's daughters, what it is to be 17 and trying on different affectations in the quest to figure out who you are (which is relevant bc of the 2 daughters leaving home in Calif. for college in NY state).
Eva steps over the line a little bit -- she really shouldn't be correcting another person, even if her intention is good (= littering is a crappy thing to do) -- and even tho she does it with kindness and humor, it's a little controlling. Whereas one of the points of the movie is that to be in a healthy relationship, we have to give up some control and make room for other people's behaviors. (Note that near the end, Eva finally asks her massage client to help her by carrying the table up the stairs -- no more of this destructive "He should know what I need even tho I've not told him." Similarly, the friend has loosened up with the housekeeper -- she accepts the hairbrush in the silverware drawer. It's an acceptance of the fact that relationships are hard; that we all need to give n take; that others are not here merely to serve our needs; that we have to learn to chill rather than feel irritated, bc the end result -- a decent relationship -- is so worth it.)
"All you need to start an asylum is an empty room and the right kind of people."
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