evil parenting = well behaving kids

I have to reply to this.
Yes, sometimes we hear stories of how some kids grew up to be successful, "good" etc. despite their parents doing their damndest to *beep* them up.
But these are just singular occurrences. Usually kids from broken homes will end up broken too.
You need to be exceptionally strong and smart to NOT do as you've been shown for the last decade and more.

Kids don't need to be spoiled. Just treat them with respect and teach them to believe in themselves. They'll take it from there.

It's a bit more complicated than that. If the kid getting abused is smarter than the parents doing the abusing, and if the abuse isn't super horrific, then often they will turn out alright. Money also counts. The more money the family has, the more true this is. A moderately abused poor kid is still not as likely to turn out okay as a severely abused rich kid. If I was born to a poor family I'd already be in prison. But my parents had money, so some day I just might win a Pulitzer.


"Ass to ass. Ha ha ha ha. ASS TO ASS!" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oa5z77EI8y0

What works for some kids won't work for other kids.
Some of us are only well behaved because we know that is how we will get things in life. People will be more willing to help us or do what we ask if we are nice and well behaved.

well behaved does not always equal good.

Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt.

Daniel nailed it...while some kids escape these environments, most don't. These are just the facts of life and statistics. Talk to any social worker if you want to know what a tiny percentage of these kids get out. It is a fraction.

this is incredibly stupid. Most kids end up repeating their parents mistakes don't be fooled by the few who happen to make it out. I suggest you check some statistics.

The cycle of violence/abuse is very real. There is a difference between being tough yet fair while also leading by example, and just resorting to hitting your kids when they make mistakes.

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