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Mary Jane is so embarassing

posted 7 years ago by kinickibeck
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I always get second hand embarrassment when watching the show. She is such a stereotype. Successful wealthy black women who gives her body up to men after men. Searching for love in all the wrong places. Falling for dudes who treat her like crap. She just seems desperate. I wish she would spend time developing her character spending time with God and herself and learn to be content wether she has a husband or not. I want to see her character evolve. She just keeps repeating bad habits

[–] tiffanykk2002 7 years ago

I agree. I'm ready for her to finally be self-reflective and break these terrible habits already. Mara Brock Akil tends to have this problem with her shows. Her characters don't seem to grow enough for me. Her behavior is no longer cute, liberated or sexy. It's just sad. How many bad relationships/friendships can you be in, how much sperm can you steal or how many people can you ailenate and still fail to make changes? I could see it if the character were 25, but she's pushing 40! The only reason that she'd be continuing this cycle at this point would be because of some degree of serious trauma, but I have yet to hear something substantial other than failed relationships and a family with some degree of dysfunction (which are issues that everyone has).

I can't feel sorry for, nor relate to a character like this. She's going in circles. After posting quotes all over the house you'd think one of them would have made a sincere difference. If she doesn't grow up this season, I'm moving on.

[–] mystee_reyne 7 years ago

I agree. I think it's strange that in season 4 we've seen virtually no character development or growth in Mary's character. At first I sympathized with her character, desperately looking for love. Now I think she's lost sight of the finish line. And she's too damn old to be slutting herself out like that, time and time again. It's also very unrealistic that someone with her level of fame would not have had one of her ex-lovers try to ruin her public image.

[–] crunchbottom 7 years ago

MJ is back and she is Super-Wack! Dema ding her lover remain anonymous yet also demand be tell her that he loves her, while explaginin what the rubber band she put around his wrist for! Getting "fired" by her Matchmaker, who got 20g's upfront and probably could have soaked her for five times that much! Already plotting to sabotage her idol's career for her own!Gabrielle Union is the right actress for the job, she very believable!

[–] bossat2822 7 years ago

Tiffanykk. You said it- Mara Brock akill female leads are in the same boat. Joan Clayton, Tasha mack. Mary Jane Paul. 40s- single , sabatoged relationships. Attractive financially successful but a mess on the inside. Most of the mess is self inflicted. They blame others for their mess, but does very little on their own to fix their mess. Still stuck in their post adolescent ways. Does Mara sees herself this way? She's been married for 18 years, so it appears that she's the opposite of these ladies..... or is she ?

[–] tiffanykk2002 7 years ago

"Tiffanykk. You said it- Mara Brock akill female leads are in the same boat. Joan Clayton, Tasha mack. Mary Jane Paul. 40s- single , sabatoged relationships. Attractive financially successful but a mess on the inside. Most of the mess is self inflicted. They blame others for their mess, but does very little on their own to fix their mess. Still stuck in their post adolescent ways. Does Mara sees herself this way? She's been married for 18 years, so it appears that she's the opposite of these ladies..... or is she ?"

Yes thank you! I thought it was just me who noticed this. She takes the neurotic, damaged black woman thing too far. I've been so frustrated with the lack of growth of her female characters. Sometimes it looks like things are going to progress then the characters either change their minds or storylines drop and next season they are simply back to where they began. Always feels like a waste of time to invest in her characters.

[–] smeaglin-466-803288 7 years ago

Yep. I don't really like her much anymore. I was hoping comedian (can't think of his name) wouldn't take her back but of course, he did. Smh

[–] CarmenSandiegoIII 7 years ago

Wow, slut shaming much? The fact that MJ sleeps with 'man after man' has nothing to do with her being successful, wealthy, a black woman or with her age. These days most men simply try to sleep with women and will move on if the woman doesn't sleep with them right away. Mary Jane talked about it in one episode and said sometimes she just wants to have sex, she cant be celibate forever. She tried longterm with other men and they disappointed her, not the other way around (i.e. David - he slept with her best friend behind her back and then got together with another woman while proclaiming his feelings for her, Sheldon - didn't ever want to get married and Andre - was already married). She's evolving, she got another job in NY after being let go by the previous network, she paid $20,000 to a professional matchmaker to help her find the one - although this woman in turn let her down. She's making an effort with the British guy thankfully, i'm seeing a lot of growth in that relationship, they might move in together. Not sure where all this judgment is coming from on this thread, but unless your life is perfect, it's unnecessary.

[–] kinickibeck 7 years ago

Let me be clear. I believe that it is wrong for Any person male female or whatever it is ppl identify as themselves to be sexually promiscuous period. All it does is lead you down a path to destruction, emptiness, loneliness, instability, lack of / an unhealthy sense of self worth and value. I view it as a form of self mutilation in a way, and we see that this behaviour has shattered her as an individual. She's not liberated happy or free, she's desperate to the point of asking her one night stand to tell her he loves her mid-sex. Now society may say it's okay for a man to be promiscuous while it is not okay for a woman, but I don't guide my beliefs by society standards, society is flawed in itself, I also don't believe two wrongs don't make a right.

Mary Jane has not evolved as a person. You can be wealthy and successful with an amazing career and still be an unevolved immature individual and while I admire women like Mary who succeed in these way I appreciate women who learn to love and value themselves in spite of the hardships they face in this life much more. A fancy job car or career cannot buy happiness, it cannot replace true happiness, joy and love.

Nobody is perfect but does that mean we should accept it when people hurt others and themselves? Lets not use the truth about our imperfections as an excuse not to overcome them, that only hinders us in the end. And every human being is called to judge wether a choice they or others make is wrong or right, we make judgements every single day. I mean you made a judgement even now in your post, I'm not mad at you you are entitled to your judgement just like I am entitled to mine.

[–] tiffanykk2002 7 years ago

Well just to clarify, the problem isn't because she's a flawed character. Personally, some of my favorite characters are quite deplorable actually. But you don't have to have a perfect life to criticize the writing of a show you're watching. Most of us here are irritated by Mary Jane's lack of growth over the seasons, not the fact that she's sexually liberated. Growth is the reason viewers watch a show like this, and a simple change in location does not a mature woman make.

We want to see a character who is at least attempting to work on herself, not paying $20,000 to make her problems go away (we saw how that turned out). This new relationship going so well is only indicative of her finding a man patient enough to put up with her, not because of any genuine growth on her part, at least not yet.

[–] missym877 7 years ago

No, what's embarrassing his how you latch on to Mary Jane when Kara has hopped into bed with just as if not more guys without being in a relationship with them. I don't see you complaining about Kara and how she's just hoeing herself out. This is what I can't stand about some of you black women, you're so quick to assigning some behavior to our entire race and claim it's a stereotype. Being promiscuous (FACT) is not a black woman's stereotype, white women are known to be ten times more promiscuous and sexually loose and free.