Kate cold as ice

To me it seemed pretty clear that Kate was asexual.

By "I don't want anyone", she likely meant in the strict sense of physical intimacy. Kate obviously had feelings for Abbey, wanted to maintain a relationship with her and was hurt when she found out that Abbey had been cheating on her. But none the less, she had zero sex drive. Which is the case with some people IRL, whether gay or not.

There was obviously already some tension in their relationship. I got this impression in the scene where Abbey was making hesitant sexual advances towards the sleeping Kate. When Kate rolled over and reached into Abbey's pants to jerk her off, it seemed more like a rehearsed domestic chore than anything else.

Kate going back to sleep before she even got started, was pretty telling of how little personal interest she had in doing it. She was trying to help Abbey let off some steam as a favor (and as a way to shut Abbey up, so she could sleep in peace), but didn't really have anything emotional or physical invested in it.



Most couples don't have perfectly matching sex drives and people usually try out of concern to adapt to their partner's level as best as they can. Usually it's the more eager part who adapts and suppresses their own desire, so as not to be a burden to their less interested partner.

Abbey had already done this, but it was obviously hurtful and deteriorating on her self esteem that her wife never desired her (even though Kate did show other non- phukk oriented signs of affection). So when Abbey eventually got the opportunity to get her satisfaction someplace else, she took it.



I was surprised first that Abbey established a relationship at all with a partner who never puts out, but then I remembered that it's easy to gloss over a lot in the initial stages when you're still crazily in love.

Abbey probably didn't care at first that she didn't get as much sex as she expected. However... what little she did get was from her beloved, and hence it was glorious.

Kate probably had a lot of sex (by her own estimate) at first, even though she wasn't really interested. She still wanted her beloved to be happy and putting out even though she didn't fully want to, was a small price to pay.


Eventually the novelty wears off and you realize that all the minor, seemingly irrelevant annoyances with the other person are actual problems. But by that time you are usually tied down with kids and mortgages and what not.

They should have had that discussion when they first met, but as usual: we're not all that bright when we're madly in love.








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