I'm a guy who liked the movie, too. Then again, I always have a soft spot for the idealistic dreamers, underdogs, and misfit "losers" of the world who follow their hearts. Gives me hope for my own dreams, which is hard to come by in this cynical, practical world. I'll always relate and have lots of empathy for those type of characters, always root them on.
As for the marriage issue, sometimes you do marry the "wrong" person. And later find someone who the signs seem to indicate is more "right". And then you're stuck. You have to make a decision. Knowing that if you risk it all and go for this new person, you still may lose. Everything. Because you might be wrong. People may label you crazy, a stalker, etc. But if you're of a more sensitive and intuitive persuasion in nature, sometimes you just have to try and be brave for the first time in your life and follow your heart. Because you tried to succeed in the "normal" world and failed. Because you're a "loser". Not that I'm projecting ;-)
And hey, if it doesn't work out, at least you only ended up cheating in your heart and not physically. So while you may end up alone, at least you'll be able to sleep better at night. Not only because you followed your heart and took a chance on something in life, whether you succeeded or failed. But because you'll know at least you weren't the kind of scumbag that physically cheats with the first available person, while you're still IN a relationship no less, and I've seen lots of people on this site advocating that behaviour and no one call them out on it. "Guys cheat with whoever's available, its just what we do." Speak for yourself. Very sexist IMO.
Don't get me wrong, its great to have morals and convictions, but don't be so quick to judge others. Maybe this is just wisdom I've gained from having lived life, I used to think in the same terms as you guys back when I was younger and more sheltered, I used to think divorce was about the worst thing ever, but life isn't always as black and white as you might think. Though I guess I'm lucky in that I never experienced divorce as a kid; maybe for those that have, I can see them being more against it.
Anyway, I recently watched a movie called Doubt (RIP Philip Seymour Hoffman) and, having wrestled with some of these same issues myself, this quote really stuck with me. Just something to think about before anyone acts self righteously and judges.
"There are people who go after your humanity, Sister, that tell you that the light in your heart is a weakness. Don't believe it. It's an old tactic of cruel people to kill kindness in the name of virtue."
"Its only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."
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