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The ending (MAJOR SPOILERS)


Ok, I know it's a film about 2 best friends, but how can you call asleep when your friend is clearly dying in bed right next to you? The first thing you'd do is call in the husband so he could say goodbye. You absolutely, 100%, would not fall asleep. At the very least you'd lie awake with her so you were aware when she went. I'd be too upset to even fall asleep!!

Bloody stupid ending.

It's too cerebral! We're trying to make a movie here, not a film!

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When someone close to you is that close to death, you don't know when they will go..you do stay up with them and you do fall asleep next to them because you are mentally and physically exhausted. I know, I've been through it a few times..I slept on a cot next to my brother one night when they told us he wouldn't make it through the night...didn't sleep much, and he didn't die. He died a week later, I was right beside him.

My Dad was in a different hospital the same time as my brother....he died 5 months later and while my Mom sat by his side every minute, the one time she left him to get something to eat, he died while she was gone for 15 min. You just never know. It is just the way it goes when it's ongoing. You do what you can and love them but you are human and you do fall asleep sometimes.

All I'm saying is that scene seemed very real to me. Made me think of Terms of Endearment, Aurora is so exhausted, of course Emma is like Milly is. It's just hard to go through.

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When my gran was dying the nurses at the hospice sent us home saying they often hang on if loved ones are in the room, you've all seen her, been able to say goodbye, go home, get some rest and if anything happens we'll call you. We were home for 20 mins and the phone rang to tell us she'd passed away. On the one hand I find it sad to think she passed away without anyone by her side, but on the other hand, if we'd stayed and had made her hang and prolonged her suffering.... that's aweful too.

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Having been through it with my Mum I though it was pretty realistic. They pick when they go. We were basically awake for a week straight waiting for Mum to die. All of us at one point or another fell asleep next to her and she could have gone at any time. In the end she waited until my dad, myself and my brothers were with her, the extended family were all about to arrive at the hospital and my grandma (her mother in law) who she didn't particularly like had gone for a coffee and a wee. They pick their moment, when they feel right to go. Snuggled up with your best friend beside you and sparing her and your husband your final moments isn't so farfetched.

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A pretty Insensitive post by the OP. My step sister died the same way with my step mum laying beside her. She was bed ridden the last 3 days of her life. My step mum layer beside her 80 percent of that time, and she fell asleep many a time. What she wanted most was to just be with her when she died, regardless if she was awake or not. She knew her time was up.
The 2 girls in this movie were the same, they were close, and she wanted to be with her awake or asleep.

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Agree, obviously a very thoughtless post from OP, maybe no experience with the realities of terminal illnesses. I thought I might add a couple of my own experiences here too if y'all don't mind.
It took me quite a long time to be ready to watch this movie. My cousin died just last year after after a relatively short (12 months) battle with brain cancer. She was too young, vibrant, flawed, with two kids, and it felt very similar to this film in many ways. It's still pretty raw. She was only a few years older than me. When I was a kid, she was my hero (still is kind of) and was the 'cool older cousin' who showed me how to put mascara on and poured me my first drink.
When she died, her mother was the only one in the room with her, and she didn't notice straight away that she'd gone - death often happens incredibly quietly. But she was surrounded by people almost all the time - it felt as though she wanted to wait until there weren't many people around, just wanted to slip away without a big fuss... death can be a very intimate, private moment. My own mum and I were outside the door when it happened, even though we'd spent hours with her that day. We'd stepped out and were taking a moment. You need to take moments for yourselves when you're dealing with terminal illnesses, just like the people who have those illnesses also need their privacy some times.
Several years earlier I'd been alone in the room when my Nana passed away from lung cancer. Nana had raised me from 4-15, and then had been our neighbour, so I'd seen her every single day of my life. Every single day. And she was only 60 when she went, so that was also pretty devastating in its own way. Again, her death was incredibly quiet, she was on a ventilator and her breaths just gently became further and further apart. She'd been comatose for 3 days. While I was awake when she left us, I wasn't holding her hand, and it didn't immediately register either - because her breaths had become so far apart, with such long pauses, it really did feel like another breath was coming. Granddad wasn't in the room for it. Had I gone and woken him up each time I thought we were about to lose her - or had anyone else each time it felt like that was the time, nobody in our family ever would have slept or eaten or gone to the bathroom.
I felt guilty for ages that I hadn't been holding her hand, and that Granddad hadn't been in the room.
We'd been saying goodbye for 7 years of really awful illness, there was no predicting when it would happen. Death isn't polite. There can be many, many false moments, and many ways that even though you're preparing, it still sneaks up. Also, like the other commenters have mentioned - I think many people wait to pass on when there are less people, less of an audience I guess.
But nobody's experience with a long terminal illness is ever the same as another person's - and when the moment comes when a person leaves - it's not like you can time it or analyse it to figure out when the 'right' people should be there. It doesn't work like that. Even when you're prepared it can still sneak up on you.
This movie is pretty rough, it's a pretty real illustration of terminal illness for some people. My cousin's personality didn't change because she got cancer, neither did my Nana's. Some people have called it a depressing movie - but I personally disagree, because my cousin's death probably won't be the last one I have to deal with before my own (God willing). So I think it's a realistic flick, and a realistic depiction of friendship without the illusion of anyone being perfect. I think this film was well-acted, and cast. It's not an easy subject, and it would have been easier to make a movie that glossed over things like the way Toni Collette's character lashes out - but I'm glad there's a movie out there where the character isn't some saintly, feeble angel bathed in a saintly glow to peacefully pass away without noise or argument. My Nana was a peaceful, softly spoken person - but not my cousin - and I'm glad that there are films like these where different characters are represented. My cousin was bitter about the cancer, and about how her life was being cut short - she was a flawed, interesting, amazing woman and I'm going to miss her like crazy. I'm glad I finally watched this film today. :)

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Also, remember that she had very recently had a baby and was most likely exhausted from the birth and sleep deprived from getting up every few hours.

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