Would you 'out' yourself?

I'm 24, I really wish movies like this came out while I was in high school aka 7-10 years ago.

But I honestly think from Kevin's perspective the situation is odd (when nitpicking). How was Russ kicked off, we didn't see any coach make any decision. I just need that opinion before making anything. And what grade was Kevin in? If he was a senior and it was guaranteed a spot at his favorite school on a full ride. He had everything lined up for him. His parents would have been fine, he would have a full ride to school, and he would have had a perfect boyfriend!!

But from my perspective, my parents were EXTREMELY religious, so there was no coming out for me. Even though people knew about me without saying anything(school wise). Sometimes and sadly still in this day and age, it's necessary to stay in the closet til a certain point.

Also watching this, i don't remember high school much. I remember it being very boring. I don't know if it's because I was a social butterfly, but I didn't have any problems in terms of bullying. It could be because the school I went to was big too. So it varies from school to school.



The golden age of post-adolescent weeknd carelessness is now.

at school? never. i'm nineteen now and fully fledged gay, everyone who needs to know, like knows. but even just a year ago i was successfully tricking myself, let alone anyone else, that i identified as straight and was 100% heterosexual.

i wasn't happy, and i guess deep down i knew i was lying to myself, but at the time, my perception of homosexuality (and the schoolyard's treatment of homosexuality) led me to the conclusion being gay was absolutely the worst thing that could ever happen to me, so i convinced myself otherwise.

now that i'm in a much more mature, accepting environment, both spiritually and externally, i'm out, proud and happier than i've ever been. i had a hit list of people i needed to tell (i called them my top eight) and since coming out to the last one of those i consider myself fully out of the closet.

that doesn't mean telling everyone who walks by, waving rainbow flags and yelling social justice at any comment about sexuality, it just means i'm gay, and i'm comfortable. so in that sense i resonate with the concept of privacy you've mentioned here.

aaaaaand i made a huge post, sorry. this was a cool movie, i think it handled the theme pretty well.

I'm 31. Back in my high school days, no one was gay or even considered coming out. It just didn't exist as a possibility.

I came out long after that period of my life was over and now everyone in my life knows. I think I'm happiest around the people who know and fully accept me, because their knowledge allows us to have a fuller, more open, honest and intimate relationship. This includes parents, friends and relatives. I'm more myself, I'm without the burden of watching what I say, fearing what I may disclose, trying not to lie but to speak the truth in a way that people can go with their default, heterosexual assumption. All of that is gone and I'm that much better for this fact.

That's why I think teenagers today who are out, whether at school or elsewhere, are so much luckier than we were. I'm happy for them and hope it will only keep getting better, and not just after hight school.

I came out when I was 13 and went through most of middle school and all of high school openly gay. I didn't see the point in trying to hide it—Plus I wanted to find other guys to date. :P

(I'm 25 now.)

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