whats wrong with living with your parents?


its no big thing is it?
I've been living with me parents since the last 40 years of my life and will never part with them till both of them dies or I myself dies..

perhaps coz im an only son, so the family's burden sort of lies all unto me.. LOL
managing our own parents isnt that hard if youre up to it.. sure.. I've had my share of griefs, constantly iritated with behaviours of 75+years elderly.. but hey.. thats life init? you just got to be happy with whats life throws at you.. I have me own wife and kids to cater to as well, luckily they're ok living along with my parents too..


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The Fammily Tools show coming on in May is somewhat like this. He coming home to take over the business. I not sure if in the show he lives at home also.I think in percentage wise. It is getting more common with here as our demograpics increases,and rent getting a 1000 dollars a month in most places just for a decent apartment.

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its no big thing is it?
I've been living with me parents since the last 40 years of my life and will never part with them till both of them dies or I myself dies..
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The 'Who's the Boss' series is similar with mother daughter together. Don't watch a lot of tv but I'm sure others. Bonanza,Big Valley,High Chapparal.

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Nothing wrong. It's actually a smart financial decision and probably leaves parents a lot happier.

I think maybe in 10 years the stigma won't be there anymore. What with the economy the way it is and people having no choice but to live with parents. In the Asian community, it's already often the standard.

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I can attest to you that in the Phillipines, it is more of a standard. I have an aunt who has children in their 20s/30s who live with her. I have another aunt who has her adult children and grand children who live under her roof. My dad's cousin, who is pretty wealthy, built another house on his estate just for his children and their nuclear families to live in. This, of course, is something unheard of in the states.

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It's nothing wrong, but the generation gap is just too much for most people. I like my privacy. For the moment I'm living at home to save money, but I would prefer to live in my own apartment - especially cause I'm single and I cannot really bring any guy at the house, it's not decent. But if I was married, I guess, my husband wouldn't really like living with his in-laws, and I certainly wouldn't want to live with his parents. Also parents usually tend to tell you how to raise your kids, or how to manage the household, and that's something I am totally against. They can be grandparents and help out from time to time and spend some fun time with their grandkids, but if they live under the same roof with the grand kids they are going to interfere for sure on how you raise them. I love my parents, but I don't want to raise my kids the way they raised me, and I don't want them interfering with my rules in the house, making the grandkids break those rules, or imposing rules I'm against. I would like to live near my parents, but in the same house, it really complicates things, with your new family (partner, children). It is already hard enough to work as a team between two people in raising kids, or agreeing in household management (budget, food, cleanliness, design, etc), add in that formula the grandparents, it's just too hard, especially because the generation gap.

I suppose you have found a way to live with your parents and that's no problem for you, but most people, and I include myself there, just find it hard to cope with such an arrangement.

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You said that you would not like your parents raising your kids or influencing your life. I don't know you personally but, I don't like to say this, you should keep in mind that they have more life experience than you do. I say this b/c, for example, if I had moved years ago (I'm still living with them) I would have had more car problems b/c my dad, who doesn't hire a mechanic to fix them, would not have been there to help and teach me and would have therefore not have bought a cheap, well running used car.

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if you're 15...it's a no big thing.

If you are a grown adult and it's for the rest of your life...yes it is. If Polly was moving in short term post divorce to get her self settled then move out within a year. No biggie...

It's also different if your parents move back in because they are older and need help. But if you are in your 30s and it's for the rest of your life? Time to re-evaluate some life decisions.

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Wow... you people don't know much about US history huh??... This country was founded on families working and LIVING together for many decades. The west was full of ranches and homesteads of combined generations of families, which in some cases was the only way they survived in the rough wilds of the west. In many other countries large extended families are still the norm. Only recently in the past 10-20 yrs here, probably due to a certain group worried and trying to remove the strength in numbers idiom, has their been some stigma about it, which is utter rubbish. LIVE HOW YOU WANT! Not by how someone else thinks or tells you to live!

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It's been far longer than the last two decades that young adults in the U.S. have been expected to make their own homes independent of their parents. Sure, some still have separate homes on the same property as other family members if they have large properties, such as farms, but it's not commonplace for families to live together today at all. Using the argument that it used to be is not far from saying that we also used to sleep in the same beds with our entire families well beyond childhood. As much as I love my young son and enjoy snuggling with him, after a night or two of that I have a horrible crick in my neck. Sorry, but our days of co-sleeping are over.

Those types of comments romanticizing the "old days" remind me of a book I had in one of my American history classed in college titled something like: The Good Old Days; They Were Awful!

I like to think that when our son is an adult he will want to make his own home and will have the ability to do so, but that he will know we will be here for him if he needs us and will want to visit often.


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You're talking about over 100+ years ago. The independent living has gone on for well over 100 years. Cut the cord and move on out.

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Yes, and during those 100+ years, we've seen the booms (such as the 'Star Wars' defense build up during the Cold War in the '80s, the dotcom bubble of the '90s, and the housing bubble of the '00s), as well as its busts after its corresponding booms, of the American economy. It's the business cycle.

What would they have to do this thread? Something/someone, like technology or institutions, have artificially caused the economy to rise but they did not last long. During the Cold War, Reagan increased the defense budget to fight the Soviets which gave his constituents high paying jobs. And when that was over during Bush Sr., people complained and voted for Clinton. With more advanced military technology, there comes the dotcom bubble where business boomed temporarily b/c of faster communication but those startups weren't think in the long-term. After that boom, there was the recession of '01-'03 and people were unhappy. That preceded the housing bubble where people got loans that they could not afford, probably b/c they decided to move out early as a very young adult forcing them to rent thereby reducing their savings. So, another huge recession occured afterward, and hence Obama becoming president. The reason for the complaints during those busts would be b/c these people were worrying about paying the rent/mortgage and not living with their parents. So, I wonder when the next boom will occur and what will be the cause?

So, the main point is that culture has a major influence in the economy.

Also, I've noticed, with each passing generation, we seem to become fatter and lazier and maybe that could be b/c of more independence and less parental influence of the older generation that was more hardworking than the next. Maybe I'm wrong but if we weren't that way then illegal immigration would not be an issue, as well as outsourcing where we are not willing to do manual labor at a lower wage.

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There are many problems; most of which are comedically explained in this show.

For the "child", you have no sex life, or privacy for other things; on the other hand, if you do have a sex life (living with your parents) it is inconsiderate to them. Further, your parents' sex life becomes an issue to you as well.

I just know that I could never move back in with my mother; my bedroom was so small (not to mention in the basement), and the walls were paper thin. I don't need her help to raise my children, and her home is not exactly kid friendly.

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But on the other hand, if Polly hadn't live with them she could have continued to give into to her child but her parents put a stop to it. And maybe that could explain why each passing generation keeps on getting more spoiled and lazy b/c of a devoid of older/parental generational influence and that could be attributed to our, perhaps, misinterpretation what it means to be independent which this country was founded on.

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Besides thoughts of murder-suicide? I could never live with my parents again.







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I don't mean to delve into your personal life but what's wrong with your parents?

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Nothing as long as they're hundreds to thousands of miles away from me and I only see them during holidays.But who could actually deal with their parents nagging them all the time? Plus having to deal with them every single day. You can choose when to see people most of the time. But when you live with them it would be hell.Plus nobody tells me what to do. So you could already see that problem right there.






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What do you mean by nagging? I ask b/c doesn't that depend on if they're right or not, in the long term?

In my case, yes, there were things that I didn't like but, down the road, it made sense. For example, if my mom weren't there to stop me from eating more than two cookies after a meal, I would have increased the chances from diabetes and thus getting ill and missing work. If my dad weren't there to teach me how to clean the air filter of my used car, which I paid for with my own money, I would have had more breakdowns and I would have been more inclined to buy a brand new car, which is a lot pricier. If my dad hadn't told me to completely turn off my computer (what I mean is making sure the lights on my monitor and hard drive off) since I don't for over 12 hours as I have to sleep, work, etc, then I would have done the same thing if I had my own place to save money. So, I'm also learning plenty of things b/c I chose to live with my parents in adulthood.

Speaking of my own place, in Los Angeles where I'm from, renting an apartment can cost $1000/month. So, in a year that would be $12000 and in a decade that would be $120K. That makes a HUGE difference. So, now, I understand why the average American is struggling to pay off their mortgages when they get married, student loans, and other expenses. That's why these are the ones who love to join labor unions and Occupy Wall Street, ask for a raise in the minimum wage, support raising taxes for the rich, ask for loans, depend on Social Security, Medicare, and a plethora of benefits, and ultimately vote for Obama. So, I can see why Mitt Romney doesn't understand the average American's plight as he inherited his wealth and why Obama is right when he said that you can't make it on your own. The irony is that those who want to become independent from their parents end up depend on someone else, ultimately the govt. So, either way, you end up dependent but the difference is that at least the parents can TEACH you while the govt just gives, gives, gives, for the sake of your vote.

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