Netty is right 2 be made joy/carl spent her $375,000

marbleann, Some 1 else said that as well.
So carl/joy DIDNT use the $ to move to the suburbs.
Sigh, I do feel for them in that they found Netty and want to make up for lost time but surely they can understand her feeling : You spent the $ bc you gave up on finding me, you gave up on ME.
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First I said her mother was mercenary. Did I mention anything about her taking drugs . I was talking about her mothers personality and if you cooled down for a second you would of understood that.
They kept that money in trust for 20 years, something they had no obligation to do. And I am sure if they had a trust and estates lawyer they would of advised against it.

If that money was for her the courts would of ordered it to be set in trust period. The money was awarded to the parents. So do not get it twisted, It is obvious you never dealt with the courts or how they work. You cannot touch any money if it is not for you. They put that money in a trust for a child until they reach 18 and they appoint a guardian, usually not the parent to make sure the money is in the right place and getting the best interest available. It is that complicated. There are serious laws about that. The harm was to the parents. The hospital was negligent. They had no idea she was even still alive. The parents suffered the loss of their child.


I say Nettie needs to go to that hospital and sue them. That is who is in the wrong along with the nut that took her. You ever thought of that? her initiating a new lawsuit against the hospital so she can awarded for her damages. How was the parents in the wrong for her missing. Why should have to pay her for something they did not do. The money was not hers. Let her go and sue them and get her own money. Again I believe she is a product of her upbringing and she is showing her anger in the wrong place. She needs to be more resourceful and show her anger the hospital not her parents
Also it seems she is madder at her parents then at the jerk that kidnapped her. How can you even think her anger is not misplaced. She is mad at her real parents because they spend money that was not her that they put is trust just is case she showed up in 20 years. But not mad at the nut who took her. Seems to me the parents biggest mistake was putting the money in trust which they did not have to do. because for some reason people that it was the daughters money in which in which it was not. Maybe if they just spent it when they got it no one would of thought mistakenly it was hers.
One last thing the money was the parents if they wanted to go out and spend the money on a shopping spree at Bloomingdale's and Barney's they could of. So what. You think Nettie would of felt better if they spent the money all on donations to the ASPCA? No. Suppose they donated the money? What that had been acceptable to you? What they did is something IMO most people would not have done , waited for 20 years. How long were they suppose to wait. It was not Netty's money? Until they died? I think not. What would of been a proper time for you? Never. They could of still spent the money and still looked for her. One has nothing to do with the other.

ashlee I agree. That was not her money in the first place. I am sure if she was found she would of had the money because the parents put it in trust. But that was their decision they did not even have to do that. If it was for the daughter the courts would of put the money in trust. After going through the ordeal of having your child stolen. Which I am sure had something to do with the break up of the family I say they showed a lot of discipline. Most people would of been so distraught they would of taken the cash as soon as they got it and spent it on something thinking it would make them feel better. Tat money was in trust for 20 years. I wonder if she was found at 35 would she feel the same way if her parents spent the money. It was really bad timing because she was not that older then 20 and she just not put in perspective how long that money was in trust. IMO

FIrst of all, Netty wanting to be loyal to the woman who raised her (aka the kidnapper) could be understandable. But as a mother, she should also realize that if someone had stolen her daughter and kept her for decades - she would not want to be so lenient, so a little understanding was necessary on both sides.
ashlee, I agree with you on netty needing to see it from joy/carls' POV and from the POV of if her[netty's own] daughter Samani was kidnapped.
I think Netty did try, she called, texted and made trips to NY.
joy/carl wanted her to cut off the pettways and move to NY which IMO isnt understanding on their [joy/carl] part.

Yes, I did watch the Behind the Headlines. And it's very easy to explain why the money was not hers: the parents were the ones who suffered. The parents were the ones awarded. The parents were the ones who chose to put the money away with the hope that she would be found while she was a child. The parents were the ones who suffered. Pain and suffering is what they were awarded the money for. Netty didn't even realize she was kidnapped until she was an adult and mother - she did not go her entire life knowing that there was some other family out there that she belonged to. Had that been the case, yes, she would have suffered too, so she might be entitled to some money. But again, it had been 20 years - long after the time when most people give up all hope.
again, if netty wasnt kidnapped would they have had the money? NO.
how is the settlement different from when there is a settlement to an injured infant and the $ goes to the parents? i feel it isnt.
And many times children have sued their parents for misappropriation of their funds.

ann admitted to netty that she wasnt her daughter when netty was pregnant so for 5 yrs netty did suffer, DID wonder who she belonged too. So she too had pain suffering. The hospital was negligent to netty in allowing her ot b kidnapped. She did suffer.

carl/joy had 375k to spend which they did.
in jul 2008 they cashed in netty's 424k and threw it away. i say threw it away bc we do know that they didnt spend it looking for carlina!
didnt spend it on a house ( house in the suburbs, project, or anywhere for that matter

they left the money in the trust fund for 20 years and lost all hope.
and THAT is why netty is sooo hurt and stopped returning calls.
her bio parents gave up, spend the $, but now keep saying they never gave up hope. actions speak louder than words and their actions show that they did give up hope.

Or should it have gone on to try and create a better life for the children they were raising? Any responsible parent, especially one who struggled with money, would tell you that the money for a child that might never be found, would be better spent on the children they were supporting.
IMO the money was wasted. they blew through 424,000 in 2.5 yrs but still live in public housing. they were able to raise their 4 kids for 23 years with out netty's money. they blew through 424,000 in 2.5 yrs. yet they want netty and her daughter samani to move to NY. to where exactly? into the projecs with joy ?


Any responsible parent...
any responsible parent woulnt have given up.
why didnt they use to money for billboards on interstates in/out of nyc?
why didnt they use the money to run copies at kinkos to be put up on subway trains?
to build a website?
why didnt they ask for netty to be on "unsolved mysteries" or oprah/jenny/ricki/donohue/montel. or the new show "finding out missing" ?
...... all of these are things 'any responsible parent' would do.

jaycee's dugard(missing for 18yrs 2 months) didnt have a $750k settlement but she was still searching 18yrs later.
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