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I think a disgrace to lie to children.


I do not think it justifies the families of the victims nor her own children to lie about the morality of their father. To me, there is no need to go through her life with this assumption, not to mention so many things could have gone wrong during her murder of her husband.

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I tend to believe in telling the truth. It's a far easier way to live. But one could argue that telling the truth is actually a selfish act, and that a truly compassionate, unselfish parent would actually shelter their children from living a miserable life full of guilt and shame, to no doubt be passed on to their own children and so forth. What good comes from that?

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You are obviously not a parent....
Seriously, telling the truth is always best and it certainly makes life so much easier in the long run.

The problem here is that she loves her children. They may be adults.... they may even be able to handle the truth.
The truth to her and to most parents is that they love their father. this isn't just news that he cheated on their mother or that he was caught with a prostitute or that he was out buying/selling drugs.....
This guy was a serial killer. Once it was brought out it would be all over the news. Her kids didn't need that over their heads. I can understand trying to shield my child from that sort of publicity and shame.
What I doubt I could handle is dealing with the knowledge that the one I love could do such things..... and I had no clue!

"Fasten your seatbelts. It's going to be a bumpy night"

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The problem here is that she loves her children.
Yes and we see she obsesses about things. The film is called A Good Marriage and it's made abundantly clear that the Darcy we see is never going to tell her children about their father's sins. She is going to maintain the façade, just as she did on a temporary basis with Bob, before his death.🐭

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First time I hear that loving your children is a problem.

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First time I hear that loving your children is a problem.



I may have worded that wrong. Loving your children is certainly not a problem. You may have misunderstood what I was saying. The problem is the situation here. I don't believe that it is a disgrace to lie to them in this case. She loved them enough to shield them from the disgrace this whole thing would have caused them.
I hope that clears up any misunderstanding.

Once again...The truth to her and to most parents is that they love their father. this isn't just news that he cheated on their mother or that he was caught with a prostitute or that he was out buying/selling drugs.....
This guy was a serial killer. Once it was brought out it would be all over the news. Her kids didn't need that over their heads. I can understand trying to shield my child from that sort of publicity and shame.
What I doubt I could handle is dealing with the knowledge that the one I love could do such things..... and I had no clue!
I doubt the children could have handled that knowledge of their father either.


"Fasten your seatbelts. It's going to be a bumpy night"

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You are obviously not a parent....
I am not a parent but I was once a child. I agree with you on what you said. People can be clueless even when they have children.

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