First time I hear that loving your children is a problem.
I may have worded that wrong. Loving your children is certainly not a problem. You may have misunderstood what I was saying. The problem is the situation here. I don't believe that it is a disgrace to lie to them in this case. She loved them enough to shield them from the disgrace this whole thing would have caused them.
I hope that clears up any misunderstanding.
Once again...The truth to her and to most parents is that they love their father. this isn't just news that he cheated on their mother or that he was caught with a prostitute or that he was out buying/selling drugs.....
This guy was a serial killer. Once it was brought out it would be all over the news. Her kids didn't need that over their heads. I can understand trying to shield my child from that sort of publicity and shame.
What I doubt I could handle is dealing with the knowledge that the one I love could do such things..... and I had no clue!
I doubt the children could have handled that knowledge of their father either. "Fasten your seatbelts. It's going to be a bumpy night"