Erica's sister Molly is a BITCH - My 600-lb Life (2012) Discussion

[–] rubydragonfly88 7 years ago

I was going to say the same thing! Both her brother and sister were complete A**Holes, but at the same time, she doesn't need their support to make changes. Would it be easier with them behind her? Absolutely, but that's not the case and if she keeps using them and everything or everyone else as an excuse, she's never going to change.

Also, Dr. Now saying "Food addiction is a choice." No, addictions start with choices, but they don't stay that way. He's never said that to another patient, so what gives?

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[–] mayobrown-1 7 years ago

Erica's sister was absolutely disgusting. Why did she even participate in this documentary when she had nothing positive to contribute to her sister's situation?

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[–] novastar_6 7 years ago

No, addictions start with choices, but they don't stay that way. He's never said that to another patient, so what gives?

I wondered that too.

Both her brother and sister were complete A**Holes, but at the same time, she doesn't need their support to make changes.

Except the doctor's also previously explained if the family does not change and help the patient, they will not be successful without the family's support.

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[–] rubydragonfly88 7 years ago

That's usually when they're clearly enabling them, like living with them and/or bringing them food etc. In this case, she's dealing with the opposite. He preaches "Personal responsibility" to every one of them and that no one can do it for them.

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[–] Syn84 7 years ago

Molly is exactly what Erica needed.

Lets start from the beginning ... So Erica had 40+ years of bad eating habits and then she expected that Molly will drop everything and move to Houston with her for a whole year? Seriously?

And it looks like Erica made promises before about losing weight, since Molly did say at one point that Erica never followed through anything in her life so Molly doesn't think that Erica will actually follow up with a plan this time either.

I'm only 60 min into this episode, but right now its the part where Molly threw away all junk food and Erica is whining how upset she is. Then Erica ordered crappy food again, which dietitian threw away and here is Erica all upset again stating how she can just "order more". So I don't blame Molly at all for not wanting to do anything with Erica - I wouldn't either.

During this first hour Molly is not a bitch. Erica is a bitch and she's bringing down everybody else to her level.

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[–] rubydragonfly88 7 years ago

There's a difference between having your own life, and refusing to enable someone, and being completely insufferable. Her intentions were right, and I agree that Erica expected too much from her, but the way she went about it just made her look ridiculously immature.

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[–] Syn84 7 years ago

Probably, but I don't blame her.

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[–] kramermom 7 years ago

Syn - Im so glad you said what you did so I didn't have to type it, haha. I really don't know what Erica expects! She doesn't want to change her eating habits at all and says she'll just order more junk food! The only thing I can think of is, she thinks the surgery will take away her appetite and she'll never crave food again? How is it that nobody has explained that's NOT the way it works? I'm only half way through the show now too but I wanted to chime in and I wonder if I'm missing something cuz Erica is making no sense to me. I don't blame Molly for feeling the way she does! She's seen this behavior and poor attitude for over 40 years and she's probably beyond fed up, as is everybody else who knows her! Erica made the trip to Houston and had the "just fix me" attitude while there! She really acts like she honestly thinks this isn't going to take any effort on her part! Can she really be that stupid and actually think that?

Thanks for listening and have a good night! I'll keep watching cuz so far I think I'm really missing something, haha. ?

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[–] Karma-For-You 7 years ago

At first I thought the sister had a reason for being such an a-hole, but even if she did, you don't treat people like that. I was hoping for Erica to lose a lot of weight so she could run after her, beat her ass and then tell her to go "f" herself.

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[–] novastar_6 7 years ago

At first I thought the sister had a reason for being such an a-hole, but even if she did, you don't treat people like that. I was hoping for Erica to lose a lot of weight so she could run after her, beat her ass and then tell her to go "f" herself.

Amen.

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[–] thepeeps1 7 years ago

Exactly. While I understand why the sister is angry and resentful (Erica continuing to do this to herself all these years, Molly uprooting her and her husband for a little while to help her sister, as well as of course the attitude of "You should have done this already, not 30 years later"), but just the pure disrespect was unbelievable. I was SHOCKED at the way the brother-in-law talked to Erica. I would have ripped my BIL a new one if he talked to be like that. It's one thing to be angry but it's another to be just a sour, negative horrible, gross person.

I did like Erica's niece though. I felt she was the only positive person in her life who actually gave a damn. The fact she was the only one out of the whole family to go shopping for her speaks wonders.

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[–] demita53 7 years ago

I don't understand how Molly can be so mean about Erica's weight, but then doesn't want to drive her to see the doctor. How did she think Erica was going to get there?

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[–] novastar_6 7 years ago

I don't understand how Molly can be so mean about Erica's weight, but then doesn't want to drive her to see the doctor. How did she think Erica was going to get there?

Exactly, she KNOWS she can't get there by herself, her brother also isn't going to help and there's NOBODY ELSE that's going to do it. Molly is an incredibly selfish bitch.

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[–] Syn84 7 years ago

Molly is an incredibly selfish bitch.

Yeah, Molly is a bitch. Molly wanted for everybody to put their lives on hold for a whole year in order to take care of her.

Oh wait, Molly didn't ask for that. Erica did.

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[–] acand187-2 7 years ago

Syn, did you and I watch a different show than everyone else?!

Molly and her brother have families!! Erica was not only expecting them to drop everything, but she was big time guilt tripping her brother. Let's face it, what we saw was about a year of her life. I'm going to go out on a limb and say her bro and sis have had to deal with Erica and her issues for a hell of a lot longer than a year. And from what we saw, anytime Erica made an attempt to get better, she never followed through.

I would imagine her siblings at some point couldn't take it anymore. Being at Erica's beck and call while she sat back and didn't do anything to help herself. And then when she did want their help, it wasn't "hey can you take me to the doc...can you go grocery shopping for me"...it was "hey can you move me to Houston, then live with me for about 6 months while you nurse me back to health?"

And on top of all that...anytime help was offered by Dr. Now or her niece, she complained about it!! UGH....I hope Erica finds her way, but from what I saw, she's selfish and entitled.

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[–] Syn84 7 years ago

My comment above was sarcastic. I agree with you 100%.

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[–] Karma-For-You 7 years ago

It has nothing to do with what they were or weren't going to do. It has to do with Molly being a nasty, mean bully. I would have told her to go "f" herself. She needed to look in the mirror before commenting on what her sister looked like. At least Erica has a pretty face.

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[–] acand187-2 7 years ago

You and I might be the only ones who feel this way. I'm trying to sympathize with Erica, but I just can't stand it when these folks who bed for help, cry that they will die without this one last chance...then turn around and push away all the help they are given.

It drives me crazy!

My feet have wings, barf bag.

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[–] demita53 7 years ago

Even thought I thought Molly and her brother were *beep* I wondered what Erica did to make them treat her that way. Maybe they tried to get her to do something about her weight many times and she just said *beep* you, I'll eat what I want.

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[–] zuzupetal_99 7 years ago

I can understand being frustrated dealing with a family member's addictions, from first-hand experience. It's exasperating and when you don't have the same specific addiction as the person struggling, it's hard to identify with them and you think "why can't they stop?" or I don't do drugs, or drink, or overeat, or whatever the case may be, so why do they? Even so, the best you can do when it's your family is not to judge them and be a bitch [Molly] and not to put them down to make you feel like you're so superior. I think her family could've been more supportive & encouraging instead of the rotten snide comments and constant judging & finger-pointing; b/c one should be there for their family, b/c that's all they have.

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[–] Syn84 7 years ago

That really wasn't the case with Erica. Molly wasn't upset because "she couldn't understand". Molly was upset because Erica ruined her life and then pretty much tried to do the same to Molly and her brother. Its one thing to ruin your own life - its even worse when you bring down everybody else around you - which is exactly what Erica was doing to her brother and sister.

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[–] demita53 7 years ago

And I don't know why Molly has such a stank attitude, because she's not so small either. She said that Erica is an embarrassment, but some people might think that she is an embarrassment. How can an overweight person be so hateful towards another overweight person??

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[–] Karma-For-You 7 years ago

Exactly, and even though she's morbidly obese, Erica is a pretty woman while her sister has zilch, nada, nothing in the looks department. I try not to say mean things about a person's appearance, but that sister is so ugly on the inside, that I don't have a problem saying she is ugly on the outside as well.

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[–] Planet-38 7 years ago

I tried to be understanding of Molly, because it seemed that she was fed up with Erica's promises to change and subsequent failures.

What I couldn't understand with Molly or other family members in other episodes is:

Molly is clearly overweight, and depending on her height, she may be considered obese. Yet, she behaves as if she doesn't have any eating issues herself. I bet the same foods she was confiscating from Erica, would be found in her home. And Erica told her that she resented not being able to eat what other people are enjoying.

I have seen this type of attitude in family members on other episodes. The whole extended family can be overweight, and none of them seem to change their eating habits, leaving the 600+ person to eat a restricted diet while they are munching down, sometimes in the same room, on high calorie junk for the most part. And show disdain for the person that is clearly struggling.

"Arguing with idiots is like trying to play chess with a pigeon..."

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[–] holchie 7 years ago

There is a rather large difference between being "obese" in the category of the sister Molly, and someone weighing over 600 pounds, though. I do agree that I cringe when I see them eating in front of the 600 pound person, but I can't help but wonder if those are set-up scenes by the producers of the show.

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[–] Syn84 7 years ago

Molly is clearly overweight, and depending on her height, she may be considered obese. Yet, she behaves as if she doesn't have any eating issues herself. I bet the same foods she was confiscating from Erica, would be found in her home.

That is true, but there is one huge difference between Molly and Erica. Molly is independent with her daily life. Erica is not. Molly is not dependent on anyone. Erica is not.

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[–] Planet-38 7 years ago

@holchie
@Syn84

Does that justify the unabashed disdain? I seem to recall something along the lines of,"Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone." (And, I'm areligious.)

"Arguing with idiots is like trying to play chess with a pigeon..."

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[–] Syn84 7 years ago

Honestly ... yes, it does. Some people won't get it until you leave them to struggle on their own. Erica is one of those people.

I worked many years as a social worker. I worked with different populations, mostly drugs and alcohol addicts, but I had few clients who were well over 600 lbs. Some of them will accept the help and change their lifestyle. Others (like Erica) will not appreciate anything that you do for them and will pretty much laugh at your face for trying to help them. And as soon as you leave - they will go back to their old ways. That's when you need to tell them "*beep* you, this is your mess; you created it so you deal with it". Its funny how only then all of the sudden they start changing their lifestyle ...

Erica didn't need a support. Judging by Molly's reactions, Molly probably did provide support in the past and ... well, Erica was still 660 lbs. Erica needed a good Sargent at the boot-camp - which is exactly what Molly was.

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[–] Jentourt (1) 3 years ago

Agreed! I understand Molly’s frustration but to treat someone as she treated her sister. Why bother going and Molly is no size 2. She could lose a few pounds herself.

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