Why didn't they say 'no' to the drinking/getting drunk?
I've never been a drinker, never cared for the taste, and found people who drank and got drunk to be repulsive to be around.
But so many of these women's stories mentioned that they were drinking, or around men who were drinking.
I don't care if your commanding officer orders you to drink, you can say 'no'. Afraid that'll mean you won't move up in rank or something like that? So be it.
Whether in a military profession, or non military profession, each of us has the choice to say yes or no to what our boss tells us to do. I've quit jobs where it was an unhealthy place to work. Sure, that means I won't rise to a higher position there, won't make bigger bucks, can't look forward to an awesome pension - again, so be it.
Yes, I'm clear some of the stories had nothing to do with alcohol - and my post isn't meant for those cases.
But come on! I know not to walk down a dark street in the middle of the night in a gang ridden, high crime area, with a purse with cash falling out of it. That just makes common sense. Why isn't it common sense to know you shouldn't get drunk around a bunch of gung ho guys? I picked up in high school how much of a jerk an arrogant guy can be, and steered clear of them. But then many of these women were in their late teens, and I guess they wanted so much to belong that they'd follow when they knew they shouldn't? Honestly, I don't get it.
And if these women had stayed sober, and some drunk guy came at them, didn't they learn and practice combat maneuvers? I'd think a sober woman against a drunk guy would have the woman coming out as a winner. I'm a 5'2" middle aged woman who worked for years in juvenile detention centers with very big males and was trained on how to handle them, and they weren't intoxicated.
I'm not saying they were 100% at fault for what they experienced, but they should put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror for a little while.
And that they'd join up with forces who believed controlling others with might is right, well with that mind set it makes sense what's happening. Not saying it shouldn't change, but when you hang around with 20 yr old guys who live by the 'might is right' creed, it's not surprising what's happening.
Welcoming your responses.