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I found the film very creepy


I don't think that girls/women should be objects for men. I think fathers should support and protect their daughters (and sons). I like manners and etiquette. Girls should be given the resources to make good life decisions. Children need guidance, information, love, and support

That said, this was a truly creepy film! It was about parents dictating decisions for their children, not children making good decisions.

There are a lot of happy women who had premarital sex. There are a lot of happy women who waited until marriage to have sex. There are a lot of unhappy women who had sex early. There are a lot of unhappy women who waited for marriage to have sex.

It is not the sex that is the important factor. It is whether the children feel they made good or bad decisions. There are good decisions and bad decisions. There are good outcomes and bad outcomes. Good decisions do not guarantee good outcomes, though they improve the odds. Bad decisions do not guarantee bad outcomes. There is a lot of luck in life!

I think these parents should be ashamed of themselves.

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It is great to read all of these responses to the film. I wish there were more threads but I suppose this film has a very limited audience -- although like the earlier documentary "Jesus Camp" it provides insights into the very popular, apparently ever-growing, evangelical-charismatic movement in the US, which started gaining political power during the Reagan era and is now shaping Republican and Tea Party policies among many other things. So in other words, this documentary, and it think Jesus Camp, should be viewed by anyone with an interest in contemporary American culture and politics, especially conservative versions of these. (Just to clarify: I am NOT trying to disparage evangelicals, Republicans, etc)

In terms of this show and its "Virgin Tales," I also thought that the father was creepy and very controlling. His energy just seemed off-putting, and the attention to the girl's sexuality on every level did not seem healthy for any of the parties involved. Plus the young girls and young guys are clearly desperate to have a boyfriend or girlfriend, all very normal at that age, and this acute desperation (their fervent prayer session was almost depressing) will likely result in young guys and girls getting married way too young mainly for sex. Not good in the long run. Sort of like Carrie (the original not the godawful remake). Carrie was oppressed by her mother's terror of her emerging sexuality. The repressed kids are desperate to get out, so there is no time for college, much less an advanced degree like law or medicine, unless they are married through all of this but that is VERY tough for emotional reasons as well as practical ones like money and support and housing for graduate students. Not to mention the stress of raising babies in that context.

Just for context, I am a man of 41, married for ten years, no children but I do at least participate in child-raising with our siblings' children, and the father seemed just over-involved on an emotional level. The daughter needs to start learning how to be a woman, and while the father can show her a model of good male behavior, it can tip into repressive "Dad won't let go of his little girl" syndrome, which won't help the daughter or the father. I can understand very well that a father might be afraid of the jerks his daughter might bring home or encounter in the world. Fine. But these girls are not being prepared for the realities of life as an adult, especially as a married adult presumably with children. You need a chance to date and get some sense of the realities of dating and relationships, and grow up yourself, before marrying.

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