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The Mother

posted 11 years ago by sammarie87
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I completely understand the concept behind the mother wanting to do right by this child and the child's mother, especially if there was some sign of this being an involuntary adoption...

But majority of these families wait on a list for years before there's an available child to adopt, along with the time spent trying to conceive children of their own.

She seemed so passionate about finding the daughter's real story and didn't seem too concerned about the fact that she would be forced to give up the child she had adopted to be her own daughter. She immediately found out that the daughter's birth weight was low, and that led her to be so willing to give the child back? I just don't know how much I believe that a mother, who's finally been given the chance the raise a daughter, would be so eager to find out that it's not a legal adoption and give her away. Whether or not it's the right thing to do, ignorance is bliss sometimes. And I feel like an adoptive parent who went through a reputable agency wouldn't even have considered going down this road. Especially not with the only initial sign being in the lower weight percentile...

[–] sammarie87 11 years ago

As I continue to watch the movie the other adoptive mother seemed to be the exact example I'm speaking of, she was on point with how I'd assume an adoptive parent would be.

[–] bbakerboy 10 years ago

It's hard to say what I would do in this situation since I've never been in it. However, knowing who I am and what my tendencies have been in confrontational situations, I'd say I would have done exactly the same thing.

One of the things we take on as a mother is to be selfless for our child. It no longer becomes just about us, that is our duty to that child. Any intuition or feeling you have that a child you adopted may not have been taken legally and may rightfully belong to a biological mother that loves her, needs and should be addressed, otherwise you've failed the obligation you swore to take for that child.

Sitting on a wait list, failed in vitro, countless agencies, etc, etc.... none of it compares or is worth justification for a woman knowingly keeping a child that was stolen from another mother. I don't believe you can call yourself a "mom" and do that to another mother, no matter how upsetting or heartbreaking it is for you.

I hope you pass a kidney stone the size of a golf ball

[–] deem_bastille 8 years ago

As a teacher I have the obligation to take care of my students as they were my own children. I teach in a rough area and sometimes it seems like I care for them more than their own parents. I know when a child needs medical attention, when they are upset, hungry, uncomfortable. some of these parents need to be told that clothes need to be washed. their children's bodies, too.

Reading the paper can really be depressing. Mr. Dithers fired Dagwood again.