Never Believed Her


I never believed that woman's story. If she was abused, where are the police reports? Where are the bruises? Where are the broken bones? Why were the children never called to testify?

I had a boyfriend once that abused me, first verbally and later physically. The day he broke my left cheekbone was the day I finally left. I filed numerous reports and called police numerous times. Most women do at first. They (like myself) later get scared to do so.

If he abused Mary so bad, why was there not even one report? Not one?

Where that old boyfriend of mine is now, I have no idea. (It's been eleven years now). But I pray that he does not have a woman in his life. She will suffer the same fate.

My friends noticed things were wrong when he was only verbally abusive... long before it became physical. I was depressed, withdrawn, anti-social, and afraid.
I was never that way as a child or a teenager. Then, I was outgoing and had lots of friends.
As the abuse got worse, I abused sleeping pills and pain-killers. Once, I overdosed on both.

I tried to cover bruises with make-up, long sleeves, long pants, and sunglasses.
But people noticed. They often questioned the stories that I made up explaining my "accidents" and why I was so clumsy. They never saw me be clumsy or trip over my own feet.

Why is it that every woman who kills her husband tries (and some succeed) in a ridiculous B.S. "I was abused" story.
I believe 8 out of 10 are liars! They are just looking for an easy way to get out of it and know that a jury will be moved by her tears.

I really hope she never gets angry at her girls when they fail to clean their bedroom to her satisfaction. God be with those girls.


This good-looking... and I can fly! Rod Redline

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I am sorry LadyJennyfer but I do believe her.
I believe he would have killed her if she reported the abuse, he would have killed her if she tried to leave him.

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If he hadn't abused her, what was her motive? She didn't have a lover, and/or a giant insurance policy out on her husband, she had no history of mental illness or violence. If Winkler was such a saint, why would Mary have killed him?

I have no problem believing that he was a Jeckyll and Hyde type.

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^ This.

Good for you for calling Police and getting help, but most women in domestic violent relationships DON'T.

Furthermore, Mary was claiming emotional and sexual abuse, NOT physical. Emotional abuse is worse in my opinion. It doesn't leave physical scars, but the memories stay forever.

There was no way she could have safety left. I believe he would have killed her or gotten full custody of the children or something like that.

Meredith: Were adults, when did that happen? And how do we make it stop?
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I agree. I honestly can't say whether what she claims was true or not, but I certainly agree that if that was the situation, she wouldn't have gone to the police or had anyone find out what was going on. She was the preacher's wife, and he was SO revered. Everyone thought he was a saint. I am sure she would have been afraid that no one would believe her or maybe even felt that she deserved it, as some abused women feel. It's a really sad situation. If she was telling the truth, I'm sure that she was scared and felt alone and hopeless.

"Not all who wander are lost."--J.R.R. Tolkien

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LadyJennyfer, I believe Mary's story. I've been in a physically abusive relationship from 1993 to 1995. I never called the cops (even after he put me in the hospital). I wouldn't tell anyone about the abuse. Most my family & friends knew I was being abused. The fact is... most women, do not go to the cops. I suggest you think next time, before calling someone a liar.

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I live in Tn (not near Selmer), and recall this story very well.

I have no problem believing the guy was a jackass, and if he was truly that abusive, threatening to smother the girls as well as kick his wife in the face etc... I have no problem with someone blasting him into oblivion.

BUT! Should there not be some requirement of real proof involved to just let someone off who kills their spouse with a shotgun blast to the back?!?

These people never seem to be able to remember the events, but somehow she remembered that the gun accidentally went off. Yeah right... I guess a shell "accidentally" got jacked into the chamber and the safety "accidentally" got clicked off as well.

Its ok to kill someone because they want you to wear slutty clothes to bed?

There is a lot of shady stuff about her being mixed up in one or more of the Nigerian internet money scams as well, so she was not an angel.

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Psychological violence can be as devastating as physical one. Maybe worse.
I know what I'm talking about ...

And you can't prove anything in that specifical case, cos there's no mark no bruise no broken bone.
The children can't always understand what happens. This should be obvious in any minds.

I know that Mary was beaten it was visible in the movie, I mean, but I mostly noted abstract violence.
Manipulative persons like Matthew was are very intelligent beyond their madness. They know exactely when they should stop to avoid legal issues.
Maybe that's the reason why.


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What is an ocean, but a multitude of drops ?

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I believe her.

I was married to a Jeykl and Hyde.
People were always coming up to me and telling me what a wonderful man he was, and how he always made time to help people.
Yes, other people. He wouldn't have pissed on me or the kids if we were on fire. But if some other woman in the congregation needed her windows cleaned he'd be over in a flash. (Our windows remained filthy.)
I think you call it "Being seen to be doing good"

At home he was always angry and abusive, belittling me every chance he got.

By the time I walked out on him he had reached the point where he refused to sit down at the same table with my son and me at dinner time, because he didn't consider us real Christians.




There is nothing wrong with Christianity. Only some of the people who practice it.

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