why do they care about the birth mom's opinion she abandoned him

My brother and sister are both adopted, and I'd say that their mothers were both VERY brave for giving them up for adoption.

Also, we don't know why she gave him up for adoption.

And even people of devout faith have sex outside of marriage - it's called sinning.

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"Elephants are not purple. This is wrong."

Because this is the plot of the movie stupid in my opinion hope this movie fails.

Please. ALL movies require suspension of belief. Yes the premise was ridiculous and illogical, but getting past that, the movie had something important to say about love and family and relationships.

Not a total success by any means, but well-acted with some solid laughs and touching moments.

Six stars.


"the best that you can do is fall in love"

The premise on which The Big Wedding started was so preposterous that it almost ensured that the rest of the film would also make little sense. In real life, the adopted parents would not care the least bit about the birth mother's opinion and in fact she might not be invited at all. The scenario depicted in the film was in fact next to impossible. If Alejandro had been in close contact with his birth mother throughout, then she would have learned about the divorce. If he had not, then I don’t see why her opinion mattered that much. In any case, given the adopted parents’ own attitudes about matrimony and infidelity, it was totally unbelievable that they were prepared to turn their own house and all relationships upside down so as not to offend the religious beliefs of some foreign woman, who gave up her own son for adoption so that he could have a better life in the States.

It would make more sense if the son was not adopted and he intends to marry some Catholic girl whose parents feel very strongly about divorce. Alternatively, the De Niro couple could be divorced just recently and they want to hide that from the birth mother. Of course, in such cases the rest of the film would also have to be rewritten substantially.

In the movie they say she gave him up for adoption so he could have a life she could not provide for him. The fact that he was a little older when she did (and that he went to Harvard) led me to believe that he was a smart kid and she felt that she was not in a place to help provide the opportunities he needed.

But more importantly even in the movie she did not abandon him they talk about the relationship he has with her. The talk on the phone and he has always gone back to visit.

this really bugged me the whole movie. i just didnt understand why they are covering everything up to impress the mother who gave her son away. surly giving your son away is worse than divorce!? stupid movie is stupid

Ah first-worlders. If you think that third-world mothers who give up their children for adoption are "abandoning" them, you've never really experienced true poverty. Consider yourself lucky.

OMG- they put on a whole charade for her! And she doesn't attempt to speak any English. Why DO they care?! They raised him. It was nice to have her at the wedding, but really, she's their guest, not the final word in the family.