I'm a 35 year old man with a 19 year old girlfriend

Nothing wrong with that.

maybe not that bad if she is 19. But i think it's not right when she's 16. And a virgin. That is my opinion... you can't just take a 16 years old and just decide for her. Because it doesn't matter how much educated she is... people must get some experience in relationships

Does she think of you as her "short cut" ?

I'm a 3rd year psych resident so I my opinion is based on clinical evidence, not personal bias, but a relationship between a 19 yr old and a 35 yr old is not "wrong" per se, but it is light years away from normal or healthy. It is actually very common for younger women to be very attracted to mature men, but the ones who actually act on it and enter into a relationship (beyond a 1 night stand) typically have some deep seeded "daddy" & abandonment issues. On the other hand, the 35 yr old male who enters into a committed relationship with a 19 yr old female (and like I said, relationship, sex or one night fooling around is not as bad) is either extremely commitment averse using the 19 yr old as an excuse to stay single and free or even worse very emotionally immature and unable to connect with someone their own age on an intimate level. I'm not saying you should break up but don't expect anything healthy to come out of this, even if it lasts.

No. Love is love. I'm sure one can point to facts or personal stories or anything else to show how a 16 year difference is unhealthy or not right in a relationship, but if two people love each other, that's all that matters. It really just depends on the people!

It's kind of like parents who only let their children watch age-appropriate films. I saw American Beauty when I was 11. Many parents might find that disgraceful, unhealthy, and wrong. But me? I found that I had finally viewed a film that dealt with issues nobody spoke about, issues that I was dealing with firsthand, and it comforted me to know I wasn't alone. It felt right. So to each their own.

When you're 87, she'll be 71!

Not wrong, definitely if she looks like Elizabeth Olsen! On a serious note, one of my best friends who is 30 years old, broke up with his 19 year old girlfriend (per my advice). He basically told me that the age gap was getting too weird for him and I explained to him that if the age gap is really an issue, then he needs to end the relationship. If you're dwelling on a specific age gap in relationship, obviously you have doubts about the relationship.

Not wrong but...difficult.

Plus, it all depends on how old you are when you meet. My wife is 18+ years younger than me but we met when she was 37 and I, 55. We rarely have any issue with it now, (usually it's the source of good-natured ribbing for both of us), but, to be honest, I don't exactly look forward to my being in my eighties and her only in her 60's, (for those of you not there yet...there's a huge difference).

So I guess I would say there's a "Goldilocks" region for these May/December relationships (not too hot, not too cold) in that, the age difference means more the younger you are and the older you are --with a part in the middle that's...just perfect.