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God this show gets me angry

posted 12 years ago by shadier_than_shady
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Nobody takes the victims serious until the stalker either breaks in to the persons residence or (as on one show) kills the person? Why in the hell doesn't someone close to the victim intervene? I'm pretty sure you make some d!cks knees bend backwards or make them try to wipe their a$$ with two broken arms, they might just stop what they're doing. Maybe not, but christ, someone man up - take action instead letting someone you care about get terrorized (or worse). With all these bullsh!t reality shows, the networks need to create one where random masked dudes go around busting heads of these kinds of low lifes. Sorry, but this show gets to me. If I wanted your two cents, I'd rob you.

[–] AlwaysVanilla 12 years ago

I was thinking the same thing the whole time I watched this show. They can never do anything until it is too late. Like really, it's not taking seriously enough.

[–] demonlord6696 12 years ago

U mad bro?

[–] shadier_than_shady 12 years ago

Yep, it pisses me right off. I hate abusive people, both mentally and physically, with a passion. I wish someone would try that *beep* on someone with an altered mind set. Like me.

If I wanted your two cents, I'd rob you.

[–] elizdv 12 years ago

Yes, they don't seem to be doing all they can. The one where the guy was sneaking in and left a lick mark on her mirror. They couldn't find finger prints? DNA? No surveylance video? Witnesses? It is a miracle that one had an ok ending, but she suffered a long time.

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[–] MalakhPanov 11 years ago

On my story "Deadly Envy". I had them change the name and appearance of the psychotic bitch. When Discovery ID approached me I said I will not give her an ounce of publicity or attention and I'm only doing this show to help other victims. (I'm now a victims rights advocate)
However they completely Hollywood-ized it. The psycho and I never went out "barhopping". At one time we were friends and I helped her our financially until she became a bit out of hand.
At the end of the show they said "Iva got lucky, her stalker eventually went away."

Let me correct that, No she did not, ever go away. I had this crazy broad locked up in 72 hour psych holds, in the Twin Towers in Los Angeles and at the Patton State Prison for the criminally insane. This went on for 8 years.
The psycho was called the "trifecta of mental illness" in court. She was bi-polar, psychotic and schizophrenic.
The past year (2012) she violated the restraining order yet again and had a 50K warrant for her arrest. She still continued to send messages to me via 3rd party, was still sending threats and actively searching for me. I had to move at least 6 times in the last 8 years.
At first the Long Beach police did nothing to serve and arrest her (yet again). Psycho resided in Long Beach.
They didn't have the time, I guess...
It wasn't until my friend who is a detective in LA started tracking her so we could have her arrested and served with a new restraining order.
After about a 3 month search we found out she had committed suicide in Las Vegas, Nevada in Sept of 2012.
We're still waiting for the actual death certificate to find out if it was intentional. None of us involved believe she killed herself on purpose. She was a full blown alcoholic and on several psychotic medications. I have no doubt it was an accidental overdose. Nonetheless, I'm so grateful that I now have my life back and she is gone forever!
It all makes me very angry too, victims are re-victimized by the system. This is why I'm a part of Jodi's Voice. To help others that are victims of stalking and to make others aware that stalking is a serious crime and the victims are up against a wall of red tape just to get an ounce of help. We've changed the laws in Kansas and New Mexico and are working with other advocacy groups to help victims of stalking.

(sorry it's compressed and a short version to a very long story)

[–] MsPeaches731 11 years ago

Iva, I saw your story and found it absolutely horrifying. Kudos to you for your bravery and advocacy in such a frightening situation. So you are saying that the show completely "Hollywoodized" your story. Does that mean that your stalker was not an actress? Did she indeed meet you on a set, or did she randomly choose you to fixate on?
Also, I guess it's a bit morbid to congratulate you on someone's death, but you know what? If I were you I probably would have had a party when I found out that lunatic was no longer able able to torment you.

[–] hrhppg 11 years ago

I had a stalker who broke into my car and my home and the police didn't even bother to try for fingerprints or anything.

When I was making the report to start the process of getting a restraining order one cop told me "all it does is tell us who to question first if something happens to you."

[–] ellec 9 years ago

Her real stalker was Wendy Feiner, an older white woman. She has a few credits to her name here on imdb. I find it really weird that IFS didn't wanna use her name or anything, since it would put her in even more of a spotlight and make more people aware, but whatever; I didn't live it. Still, it's really fishy to me that they used someone not even remotely similar to portray her, as Wendy Feiner is a middle aged white woman, which is anonymous enough.
Anyway, the guy from the episode posted the video to his own YouTube channel and, after someone else who knew the stalker in the past said she'd died, he also confirmed it.

[–] jamipomerleau-924-143181 8 years ago

I TOTALLY agree!! My brother's story was told on "Kiss of Death" in season 2. My sister in law and I only agreed to do the show to help others because as you know, no one is paid to do this. The producers were given TONS of information about the case, pictures, videos, everything. When the show aired, I was so disappointed at how much they got wrong. The woman that killed my brother was African American and the actress was white. They didn't mention that he had a brief affair with her so the story made no sense to viewers. I posted the show on my YouTube channel and frequently respond to questions to clear up the confusion. Because of the creative license they took with everything, I will never again give control to another network wanting to tell my brother's story.

[–] bron-tay 11 years ago

Most maddening story I saw was Tom Donato's. His crazy bitch stalker ex-wife framed him, got custody of their kid, filed all kinds of false charges against him that got him jailed, and finally, when she was exposed, killed herself. And guess what? The family court judge figured the kid had been through enough and denied Mr. Donato custody of his daughter. She's still with the stalker bitch wife's parents, who claim their darling daughter did nothing wrong despite a mountain of evidence.

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[–] ifmachick 11 years ago

just watched the first episode about Peggy Klinke. That PI that helped the stalker find her so he could kill her should lose his license.

[–] prettyevil6662000 11 years ago

The sad truth is that by taking it into your own hands, because police can't do anything without proof of threats or physical harm already having been done (and then they need proof of THAT as well), you are more likely to go to jail than the stalker.

Not to mention the charge for assault will generally net you more jailtime than stalking, which has light penalties in most states. So, by attempting to help your family member, you may actually leave them alone without a support system, while the stalker continues - physical harm from a third party that they can have jailed (a new form of domination over their original victim, as they watch a friend or loved one get carted away) will not likely stop them, and may even encourage the behavior.

You're thinking like a normal person. Stalkers don't.

[–] boatrokr 8 years ago

Some stalkers and abusers will try to get you into legal trouble so you're afraid to leave your house, or out of revenge. My stalker involved my family. He had them thinking he was a wonderful guy and I was mean to him. He would call my job within days of me starting work and tell them I was a thief or make phony customer complaints.

[–] dazeerae 11 years ago

I can't help but wonder if this show encourages the stalkers to keep stalking their victims because they like the attention from their victims brought about by the show OR does it discourage the stalker by shining a light on the problem. I guess every stalker is different, so it could probably go either way, but I have to say I'm concerned for these stalking victims after the show airs.

[–] Rytman 10 years ago

I just watched the one about The Limo Driver and the psycho stripper that stalked him, and eventually ended his life. It made me angry when he went to the police and the female desk sgt. laughed it off and said something to the effect of "A big strong man like you should be able to handle this yourself."

If that was me, I'd be like "So let me get this straight; You are all but ENCOURAGING me to take the law into my own hands, is that correct?!? That's fine, as that's what I'll be telling your commanding officer, and/or Internal Affairs in the near future when something ends up happening."

It's one thing if the polices hands are tied because of the law, it's another to just be flat out lazy and refuse to do your damn job.

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[–] maxorec 10 years ago

The two episodes I saw, the women were completely stupid, and I didn't feel sorry for them being stalked. In one episode, the one women had zero backbone and was completely paranoid about everything. It was completely vague stalking which could've also been just a neighbor being loud and annoying.

The other episode was about a young teenager who starts dating a guy 10 years older than her and sneaking on a bus to his place on the weekends. And she was too dumb to see what a creep he was despite the obvious warning signs, and then she married him, got divorced, and I guess he got bored and decided to stalk and harass her 20 years later.

If it was some innocent woman who did everything she could to stop it, and told them to leave her alone and got her family and police involved, then I'd feel sympathy. But I don't for women who don't stand up for themselves at all, or who date guys who anyone else can see is a POS from a mile away.

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[–] mademoisellejolie 7 years ago

No one, I repeat no one, deserves to be stalked.

Stop victim blaming.