I'm surprised at how many people don't get this
A lot of people are complaining about the way Conan acts towards others in these documentary, but he explained it at the very beginning. If he doesn't like something or is mad/frustrated about something he'll express it in a jokingly manner. The people who work with him know this and know how to deal with it. That's how he gets things done.
As far as the meet and greets go, I am conflicted on what to think. On the one hand it's all very exhausted for him etc but on the other hand they did sell those VIP tickets. If he didn't want anyone but his friends backstage after shows he shouldn't have sold VIP tickets, easy.
I don't think he's a hypocrite, I think he's just a person. It takes a lot out of him to be a personality all the time and people are ridiculous. Like that one guy asking him to do the puppet bit. He's not a trained dog, he doesn't have to perform bits for you. But in the end he did it anyway. And the dancer who brought in her whole family and just lingered was extremely unprofessional.