I'm sure within the community they have enough networking and support to maintain such a lifestyle. I'm sure they would never allow one of their families to be homeless, which is a positive for their choice of lifestyle. I bet most have jobs that benefit from tax exempt status.
At the end of this episode though, my mind hasn't been changed. While this specific community seems to be the most female empowering polygamist community I have ever heard of, they still are teaching these women to want something that feels hurtful and wrong to them based solely on their religion. They feel they have to raise the few positives above the numerous cons in order to be godly. They feel they have no choice if they are to become Goddesses(which is a lesser god, always and forever.) Any choice they suggest they have is just a matter of choosing the best after life or not.
Do you want to be a goddess, yes or no? Yes? then choose a man, and then just hope you don't hate his other wives and your situation. This is your eternity, so you better learn to be happy. That's it. Maybe you will be lucky, and your sister wife wont be a complete monster. Maybe you will be lucky and she will like to cook, because you don't. But when it comes down to it, they don't have that choice. Their only choice was to notify church leaders that their vagina got tingly when their middle school math teacher spoke to them. And god would never let them tingle if it wasn't meant to be. Can you imagine? Marrying the first boy you ever crushed on? And then putting up with any women who also had a crush on him? I don't know about other people, But screw those girls. I would never want to spend eternity with them.
And how do these Friday dances work? I don't see one man with 5 women partners.... seems like outright there is another example of the false happy image. The other wives can't be welcome or fully embraced in their dances. What if you are in the middle of a dance with your husband, and some callous woman across the room calls dibs? God told her to call dibs, darn it! Sit your butt down, and knit something.
Of course the most logical reason for why this is all ridiculous is that this world doesn't have 6 women for every man, and polygamy with men as superior would never be possible on a large scale, unless we chose genders at conception scientifically. And as a feminist, it doesn't make sense because women can never make this choice to be the superior partner in the family with 6 husbands. It would never happen. So right then, the idea doesn't fly on the other hand because it's a way to keep women down. This community gives them a sense of power falsely because after they told their elders, they have no other choice but to deal with their marriage if they want their prize. You don't get the prize if you don't allow this to be your life.
I'm shocked a lesbian is helping these polygamists, as if it is something worth defending. I guess there will always be those that just do it for the money and ignore the impact on society and the female psyche. If polygamy was ever empowering to women, I could justify adults living their lifestyle free of persecution, like I would to legalize prostitution, but there aren't men lining up to be brother husbands (like there are male sex workers), and I see BS as it is. These men are pimps, and their needs don't outweigh women's needs.
If your husband's physical needs are too much after 8 years, you have been a sex slave for 8 years. You should both enjoy sex, or you should not be expected to engage in it. But if she wants to be a goddess... a sister wife is the only way to have the slave life become tolerable. It lightens the load.
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