some thoughts about the characters...

Frida initiates the other kisses and sex simply because she can't help herself. She has been drawn to/possibly in love with Mia from the second she saw her. She can't keep her eyes off her from that second, she flirts with her all the way to the island and on it. So we know she is in the middle of a helpless attraction and passionate emotions. Like Mia, she too is in a relationship that's not about love, it's about comfort and being safe. Elin was safe because she couldn't break her heart. Mia was passion, someone she couldn't not love or not be with if it was possibility. So in the end Frida's past experiences of being cheated on and her ethics just weren't enough to stop her acting on these feelings she'd never had before. Remember she says she'd never met anyone that turned her world upside down. Until Mia.

Love made Frida a hypocrite which we see her bitterly regret at times. Yet she loves too strongly to let it stop her going after something she knows is once in a lifetime for both of them. Neither main character is perfect, they're good people but they make selfish mistakes and they hurt their partners. It's not a perfect love story with infaliable characters. It's a compilcated situation and story. Sadly two people had to be hurt in the process but even without this I don't believe they would have kept Frida and Mia longterm anyway. Both were already unsatisfied in their current relationships.

I'd die for you. I love you. I love you so much it's killing me.

Both of them were attracted to each other the moment they met and their eyes said it all. They kept looking at each other, so it's no wonder that Frida immediately kissed back or initiated the following scenes. However, it's kinda strange that nobody told Mia, that Frida likes women. And on top of that she started it first and not the other way around. It means that Mia always preferred women but she suppressed it and when she met Frida, the passion within her arose again. She even said something like "would she [Frida] be jealous if she said she still loved her first girlfriend". But yeah Frida went against her moral values and dreamt of a life with Mia. I guess love really turns your world upside down as in their case. Both of them were serious enough to part with their partners.

The "first kiss" is much discussed on these and other "Kyss mig" boards and admittedly, on first viewing, I too thought that first kiss came a bit quickly and without much context beyond a few exchanged, intrigued glances shared by Mia and Frida. What becomes apparent after a much closer and subsequent viewing of the film is how very, very electric the chemistry between Frida and Mia truly is.

"Chemistry" between people has become a misnomer of sorts by those who may have never experienced it in real life. "Chemistry" is often substituted for what is actually, a high level of compatibility, comfort or sexual tension in the presence of another. "Real Chemistry" is exactly that-- a chemical reaction between the sex hormones--pheromones, oxytocin levels, etc.--of the people involved. It is powerful and creates major physiologic, mental and emotional changes of those involved. If you have ever experienced it, you'd know. Quick story: While dating someone some years ago, we worked in the same building and had both visited the same office within minutes of each other, without actually seeing one another. Minutes after I left this office, she entered, began to speak and then stopped mid-sentence, lifted her head and sniffed the air asking, "Was ItGirl here?" We had mind-blowing sex, but were not very compatible, yet this dating went on for a year. We had Chemistry.

Chemistry can also signal a deep connection--LOVE, which in the case of Frida and Mia seems the real reason both were so quick to come together and then both risk their personal relationship security and make life-changing decisions. Mia not only ends her engagement and relationship with Tim, but comes out to her father which seems to signal a reconciliation from what had been a strained relationship. Frida goes against her deeply-held beliefs about infidelity because she feels something she has NEVER previously experienced, as does Mia.

It would appear by all that transpires on film, this budding relationship is of the brand all great love stories are written about and what we all really yearn for in our own lives. Watch "Kiss Me" again with eyes and ears trained to the subtlety and subtext so beautifully played out on-screen by this terrific ensemble cast of actors, and see if you don't agree.

May all of us get to experience that level of "Chemistry" in our own lives at least once.

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You Say....

Mia seems to me kind of 'lost' in her life. She's doing what everyone expected her of, going with the flow, living in the comfort of a mutual love with a partner that reassures her. But her wedding seems to put her into some stress, deep and nagging stress that she maybe refuses or puts the credit to the wedding itself, not the fact that deep inside her she feels off about her partner. Put on top of that some father-daughter conflict climaxing with her father not telling her he wasn't to be there on the island.

Lesbian/Gay films seem to use this logic to get to the Story's affair. It seems that it is logical, but when one thinks about it it would be rarity. If the gal had not showed up she would have married the guy. The fiance was in her life for seven years. We can go out on a limb and say she did love him. Otherwise why was she marrying him. I don't think for a minute she was doing this out of pressure from society. If a pregnancy was there then that could force the issue. But it was not. I did not remember if there was serious talk on kids. But we can assume it was discussed in length over the years. [or did I miss this part]His world is shattered. The short answer is she wanted out and it seemed she took the quickest route. I felt if someone could do this after seven years then the partner is more likely to get the same at some point. Love is complicated but to not treat it with some kind of respect it can be lost. Despite her affection for the gal She betrayed someone with there was no respect for the love the fiancee had with her. There was very little thought on her about him.