Terrible! Unrealistic and no diversity!
HBO usually has quality documentaries, so I am appalled and disappointed that HBO got involved in this dreck. The filmmakers did a horrible job at presenting a diverse and realistic documentary about people who look for love online.
WARNING! SPOILERS AHEAD!
There are five stories in "When Strangers Click," and every single person in this documentary is white, and most are from the New York/Jersey area. I got the impression that the filmmakers were too lazy to reach out to people beyond their inner circle of friends or friends of friends.
There is one token gay person, and he is the only one in the documentary who experiences a sexual predator, and he is the only one who doesn't get a "happy ending" by meeting the "love of his life" online. In fact, at the end, he is the only one who is still single with no kids. I am straight, and I was really offended by this glaring discrepancy in how all the hetero stories had a positive outcome, and the token gay story they chose to include had a negative outcome.
I was also disgusted by how this documentary shows some truly crazy behavior and endorses it as a successful way to look for love. The documentary tries to sell these fairy tale stories as the norm for online dating, when in reality most people who have done online dating DO NOT find their spouses/loves of their lives through online dating.
The documentary also glossed over how common it is for people to be lied to/conned through online dating, and how many creeps and sexual predators there are online — except, of course, when it happens to the token gay person, the only one in the documentary who had an experience with a sexual predator.
It’s too bad that the token gay person was the only one in the documentary who had the negative story, because he was the only one in this film who seemed to be emotionally well-balanced and not needy or creepy.
Another thing I hated about this documentary was how desperate the women were. There’s something very sexist about only including women who came across as lonely and desperate for a man.
Some of the people in this documentary kept insisting that people who date online don’t judge others by their looks and they care more about someone’s personality. Yet all of the men in this documentary ended up with someone a lot younger and/or more attractive than they are.
You don’t see any of the men choose someone who is older and/or less attractive, which just goes to show that online dating really doesn’t erase certain things that are true in the real world, i.e., men usually care more than women do about things they want in a long-term sexual partner, such as age and physical looks.
Of course, it's BS that online daters don't care about physical looks. As the documentary showed, people who are hooked on virtual worlds always make their avatars look way better than they do in real life. If they were really secure with themselves and how they look when they meet people online, they'd present themselves as how they really look, not a fantasy version.
The hetero men profiled in this documentary are creepy and unattractive. The women are pathetic and needy. The token gay person in the documentary was the only one who had a negative/unsuccessful outcome with online dating. If this documentary were on an advertiser-supported network, I would want to boycott the advertisers.
The filmmakers should be ashamed of themselves for making such a narrow-minded, slightly homophobic, sexist film that portrays women as desperate, and implies that gay dating online is more likely to be unsuccessful than hetero dating online.