I could never really tell how sincere Sutter was being. I never questioned Aimee's love for him but I found myself doubting Sutter. He seems to just nod and go along with what she's saying most of the time while Aimee is the one who shows genuine love. Sutter's attitude seems to always be more laid back and passive in a way.
So did he really love her? Did he love her like she clearly loved him?
i don't think he did. he was drunk all the time. he was just a guy with good intentions and he accomplished his goal anyway. he boosted her self esteem and made her life better. i think he still loved his ex based on his reaction at the graduation.
shareI Think he realised at the end, when he is finish writing the essay. Thats he has bin hiding hes feelings for her.
shareHe liked her but I don't think he loved her until he was writing the letter at the end.
"Oh, my God. Bear is driving! How can that be?!"
I think he wasn't completely sure of his feelings, until the end. Although he was extroverted and seemed open, he was emotionally stagnate and insecure. He was developing the components necessary for love (for Aimee), but he didn't realize (or maybe didn't want to realize) what all of those components meant. It wasn't until after his breakdown with his mother, that he sort of got a grip on what he wanted, what he needed, and what he was willing to be vulnerable for. It's like he went out and got all the ingredients for a meal and just left them on the table. Finally at the end of the movie, he decided to put all of those ingredients together, and through that he discovered what those ingredients made. Once he discovered what those ingredients created, he realized and accepted that he wanted to partake in the meal.
So yes, I do believe he loved her. He was just so trapped within the walls that he built, that he didn't allow himself to feel for her the way he truly wanted to. Like he said towards the end, he was fearful of rejection and didn't believe that he was deserving of love. Thanks to a life altering epiphany, he changed his tune.
I think his initial thought was to just help Aimee without the intention of actually falling for her. But eventually at the end i think he ends up falling in love with her.
Perfection Doesn't Exist, But You Have to Look For It Anyway
Once he knew that he had love for her.. he did everything to hide it and try to remove it from his emotions.
I think the last scene was done so well, and answered this topic.
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Indifference is the essence of inhumanity
I think he loved her very much. So much that he decided to let her go.
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