Finding someone attractive is not "objectifying" them. Objectifying a person means thinking of them as nothing more than a thing to have sex with. Having no concern for intelligence or emotions or aspirations - just that they will provide you with sexual gratification.
Human relationships are multi-dimensional - they are based on interpersonal relationships, and emotions, and experiences, and physical attraction. Early in a relationship (like when it's just getting started) there's a lot less to connect with - some shared banter, a sense of personality from a little talk, and... physical attraction. When all that's happened is that you've seen the person, there's nothing else to go on.
Acting as though finding someone physically attractive is "objectifying" them shows a massive failure of understanding how human relationships work, and a very simplistic worldview.
And I'm sure if you were to sign up for an online dating service, you would look for one that didn't allow profile pictures, because you want to evaluate a potential partner based solely on their personality and writing, right?
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Philo's Law: To learn from your mistakes, you have to realize you're making mistakes.
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