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Definitely an advertisment for background check before marriage.

posted 12 years ago by AtheistRevolution
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I know I will get a background check if I ever get married.

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[–] bron-tay 11 years ago

I think all you need to do is ask reasonable questions. A lot of these women were too scared to do that because the guys got all upset and angry. That should be the end of it there. If the guy gets angry and threatening if you ask him where his money comes from, where he spends his weekends, why he needs you to keep signing your assets over to him, then stand up to him. If he still won't produce answers and documents, RUN.

My mother is my role model in that regard. She and my dad were total partners and never kept secrets from each other about their pasts or anything.

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[–] Defenseman13 10 years ago

"I think all you need to do is ask reasonable questions."

BAHAHAHAHAAAA... oh man, that was a good one.

[–] angelique21 11 years ago

from what i remember one did do a background check on one of them and it can back clean (mostly because he gave her a fake name)

[–] mrs-jindrak 11 years ago

Some of these women don't have common sense and are a little desperate to be loved or get married etc.

Oftentimes background checks come back clean simply bc there have been no arrests (Ted Bundy, Dennis Rader, etc).

I watched one of these episodes where the woman was saying all these nice things about this guy... except sometimes when he got mad at her he made fun of her hearing impediment. ???!!!! I mean really some things are just not acceptable but sometimes people will forgive and forget instead of severing the relationship.

[–] soapergirl 10 years ago

There's some truth in that. Unfortunately, too often narcissistic and other toxic men can come across as pretty normal because they put a mask on to conceal their real selves.

I became involved with a narcissistic psycho after doing (many) numerous background checks and knowing him online for several years in a non-romantic capacity. He kept coming up clean and he seemed normal. I had not dated in over 20 years. I hadn't thought myself desperate, but his love-bombing hooked me. But still I held back on moving in with him 17 months later!

I was lucky that our relationship was long-distance and we never lived together. What saved me were 2 things that happened. 1. I developed a life-threatening disease (these guys don't do sick women!). and 2. He found a new well-to-do target willing to serve as his ATM sugar mama, and he couldn't move his butt into her home fast enough! Met her online in February, and by March they were moving in together!

For me, I had a happy ending. I conquered the disease, and well, the psychopath now has his hooks into a much more gullible, trusting woman! You just can't be careful enough these days on who you trust! Beware the man who moves whirlwind fast! It's a serious red flag you need to pay attention to!